{"podcast":{"title":"Just Ask Her - Dating Advice for Single Men","slug":"just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757","podcast_index_feed_id":7118757,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/e8016c68/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://www.skool.com/dating/about","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/38824074/38824074-1745801198308-2d55bef082fc5.jpg","author":"Hosted by Gracie Pleschourt — Dating Coach + Confidence Expert for Men","episode_count":79,"summary":"Honest dating advice for single men from two women. Dating expert Gracie Pleschourt (@datingwithgracie on IG) and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt break down real dating questions, real struggles, and what actually works in modern dating. Each week, they dive into listener-submitted questions about their toughest dating challenges and deliver unfiltered, constructive feedback. Submit yours here: https://forms.gle/34JLMADMcxhqdb7X7","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757"},"episode":{"title":"You’re Not Behind, You’re Learning How to Date (Ep. 62)","slug":"you-re-not-behind-you-re-learning-how-to-date-ep-62","published_at":"2026-02-04T11:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757/you-re-not-behind-you-re-learning-how-to-date-ep-62","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/gracie-pleschourt5/episodes/Youre-Not-Behind--Youre-Learning-How-to-Date-Ep--62-e3ejp25","audio_url":"https://traffic.megaphone.fm/APO1007533145.mp3","summary":"Dating confidence starts before the date, when you stop performing to be chosen and start showing up as the chooser. In Episode 62 of Just Ask Her , Gracie and certified life coach Tracy respond to three listener submissions on transactional relationships, dating after separation, and building real first-date chemistry. If you’ve ever felt “behind,” struggled with rejection, or keep hearing “it’s not you, it’s me,” this episode gives you practical mindset shifts and grounded reminders that real connection is built, not bought, and emotional resilience is something you grow through experience. You’ll also hear how to stop relying on “safe” but stagnant connection, how to handle the grief of dating endings (even early on), and how to create a stronger emotional experience on dates without becoming performative. In this episode: Why transactional connection can reduce real-world dating initiative The difference between kindness and lack of boundaries A neuroscience-based reframe for why early rejection hurts so much How to build emotional resilience through dating experiences Why first-date “fit” isn’t enough—chemistry is physiological How playful contrast (used sparingly) can create romantic tension The “chooser mindset” exercise that changes your energy on dates The 5-minute pre-date reset to avoid “please choose me” mode Time Stamps / Chapters 00:00 Pre-date mindset: stop performing, start choosing 00:41 Welcome to Just Ask Her + “dating with confidence” mission 01:00 Minneapolis deep-freeze + “economic ice out” context 04:48 Submission 1 (Ralph): paid companionship/OnlyFans + feeling “behind” 09:11 Why transactional connection blocks real relationships 14:14 Protective narratives, dopamine spikes, and the post-date “crash” 22:05 Practical plan: pause the exclusive onl…","meta_description":"Dating confidence starts before the date, when you stop performing to be chosen and start showing up as the chooser. In Episode 62 of Just Ask Her , Graci…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3636,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757/episodes/you-re-not-behind-you-re-learning-how-to-date-ep-62/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757/you-re-not-behind-you-re-learning-how-to-date-ep-62.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}