{"podcast":{"title":"It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People","slug":"it-s-all-your-fault-high-conflict-people-5633630","podcast_index_feed_id":5633630,"rss_url":"https://feeds.transistor.fm/itsallyourfault","website_url":"https://trustory.fm/its-all-your-fault","image_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/sW6cJ7nwhQQfx0-nTPir_wLwI8rfRfgSbR1O3TXAmm8/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMzMTkxLzE2NjA0/MTU5MjAtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.jpg","author":"TruStory FM","episode_count":210,"summary":"Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life! Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way? In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid. And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/it-s-all-your-fault-high-conflict-people-5633630"},"episode":{"title":"When It's Not Your Fault: Blame, Backlash, and Setting Limits","slug":"when-it-s-not-your-fault-blame-backlash-and-setting-limits","published_at":"2026-05-14T10:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/it-s-all-your-fault-high-conflict-people-5633630/when-it-s-not-your-fault-blame-backlash-and-setting-limits","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/it-s-all-your-fault-high-conflict-people-5633630","url":"https://share.transistor.fm/s/a1b919ab","audio_url":"https://op3.dev/e/media.transistor.fm/a1b919ab/a14559ea.mp3","summary":"When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That instinct toward self-reflection is healthy in most relationships. With high conflict people, it becomes a trap. Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, unpack why high conflict personalities blame with an intensity that triggers your brain's threat-detection system — and why that intensity is precisely what makes you absorb guilt that isn't yours. They cover how to reality-test yourself when the blame lands hard, what to expect when you finally set a limit, and how to sit with the backlash without retreating into self-doubt. It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM. Full Show Notes & Resources Submit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | Website Watch this episode on YouTube Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:43) - It’s NOT Your Fault (02:22) - Why Do HCPs Blame? (07:00) - Absorbing Guilt (13:31) - Example (17:36) - Setting Limits and Potential Backlash (19:28) - Why HCPs Escalate (24:20) - Grow Used to Uncomfortable Feelings (26:29) - Knowing When It’s Not Safe (28:28) - Key Takeaways (29:27) - Wrap Up","meta_description":"When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That ins…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1857,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/it-s-all-your-fault-high-conflict-people-5633630/episodes/when-it-s-not-your-fault-blame-backlash-and-setting-limits/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/it-s-all-your-fault-high-conflict-people-5633630/when-it-s-not-your-fault-blame-backlash-and-setting-limits.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}