{"podcast":{"title":"How To Have Sex","slug":"how-to-have-sex-7724627","podcast_index_feed_id":7724627,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg","author":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes","episode_count":27,"summary":"How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how to have better orgasms, how to spice things up in a long-term relationship.... you get the idea. Shame-free, refreshingly practical, and occasionally so mortifying you'll need to pause it. New episodes weekly. Hosted by: Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women. Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness. Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-08T14:18:06.164963+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627"},"episode":{"title":"How To Stop Faking It and Start Being Honest In Bed","slug":"how-to-stop-faking-it-and-start-being-honest-in-bed","published_at":"2026-07-21T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-stop-faking-it-and-start-being-honest-in-bed","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627","url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-stop-faking-it-and-start-being-honest-in-bed","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/6a5dcdc9461a6a41900465e7/media.mp3","summary":"Confession time: we've both faked it. 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ This week Jay-Jay and Mel get real about faking it, and we're not just talking about orgasms. We're talking about every quiet way we abandon ourselves in bed: nodding along, holding our breath, pretending we're way more flexible than we actually are. Mel breaks down why faking it is actually a smart nervous-system survival strategy, not a character flaw, and how it quietly builds resentment and chore sex over time if left unchecked. We get into the four stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and the one nobody talks about, fawn, plus real phrases to use instead of faking it, and how to take feedback from a partner without spiralling. We also talk a little too much about swallowing. By the end, you'll have real language to use tonight, a pleasure practice to try this week, and hopefully a little less pressure to perform and a little more permission to just be honest. 💌 Subscribe to our Substack for early episodes, our weekly pleasure practice and behind-the-scenes extras. 🎓 How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams. This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets . Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HTHS for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered. JOIN OUR COMMUNITY! SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtoha…","meta_description":"Confession time: we've both faked it. 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ This week Jay-Jay and Mel get real about faking it, and we're not just talking about orgasms. We're talking…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2163,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-stop-faking-it-and-start-being-honest-in-bed/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-stop-faking-it-and-start-being-honest-in-bed.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}