{"podcast":{"title":"How To Have Sex","slug":"how-to-have-sex-7724627","podcast_index_feed_id":7724627,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg","author":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes","episode_count":27,"summary":"How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how to have better orgasms, how to spice things up in a long-term relationship.... you get the idea. Shame-free, refreshingly practical, and occasionally so mortifying you'll need to pause it. New episodes weekly. Hosted by: Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women. Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness. Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-08T14:18:06.164963+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627"},"episode":{"title":"How to Self-Pleasure (and Why it Will Change Your Partnered Sex Life)","slug":"how-to-self-pleasure-and-why-it-will-change-your-partnered-sex-life","published_at":"2026-05-12T06:45:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-self-pleasure-and-why-it-will-change-your-partnered-sex-life","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627","url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-self-pleasure-and-why-it-will-change-your-partnered-s","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/6a012612668fe6d31ff18d63/media.mp3","summary":"Did you know your solo sex life is literally the foundation of your partnered sex life? In this episode, Jay-Jay finally figures out why this topic makes her want to crawl under the duvet and never come out, and it's more relatable than you'd think. Certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes breaks down everything women were never taught about self-pleasure: where the shame actually comes from, why we were never given this education, and how exploring your own body is one of the most powerful things you can do for your sex life, with or without a partner. We cover: Why female self-pleasure has been stigmatised for centuries (and male pleasure hasn't) How self-pleasure builds body literacy and improves partnered sex Why rushing is the biggest mistake most people make How to diversify your pleasure and avoid being wired to only one pathway Whether you can get \"addicted\" to your vibrator (yes, really) Masturbating in front of your partner - hot or not? How to handle mismatched libidos without guilt or obligation sex Jay-Jay has an unexpected breakthrough on camera that stopped us both Plus Mel's pleasure practice for the week, and Jay-Jay's very honest response to it. Next episode: How to Get Your Needs Met in Bed (Without Turning It Into a Performance Review). How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Every episode is designed to educate, inform, and start the conversations that most of us were never taught to have. This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets . Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered. SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com INSTAGRAM https://w…","meta_description":"Did you know your solo sex life is literally the foundation of your partnered sex life? In this episode, Jay-Jay finally figures out why this topic makes…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3121,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-self-pleasure-and-why-it-will-change-your-partnered-sex-life/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-self-pleasure-and-why-it-will-change-your-partnered-sex-life.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}