{"podcast":{"title":"How To Have Sex","slug":"how-to-have-sex-7724627","podcast_index_feed_id":7724627,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg","author":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes","episode_count":27,"summary":"How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how to have better orgasms, how to spice things up in a long-term relationship.... you get the idea. Shame-free, refreshingly practical, and occasionally so mortifying you'll need to pause it. New episodes weekly. Hosted by: Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women. Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness. Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-08T14:18:06.164963+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627"},"episode":{"title":"How to Have Earth Shattering Orgasms","slug":"how-to-have-earth-shattering-orgasms","published_at":"2026-04-28T06:50:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-have-earth-shattering-orgasms","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627","url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-have-earth-shattering-orgasms","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/69ed471b738b0d0aa55299d7/media.mp3","summary":"Earth-shattering. It sounds ambitious, but Mel reckons it's not only possible, it's absolutely learnable. And it has nothing to do with performing, faking it, or wondering if you're taking too long. This week Jay-Jay and Mel go deep on orgasms; what they actually are, why they feel different depending on where they happen in your body, and why so many of us have been getting in our own way this whole time. In this episode: The difference between a clitoral, G-spot, A-spot, cervical and full-body orgasm Why only 18-22% of women can orgasm from penetration alone, and what that means for everyone Why your body shuts down at the worst possible moment (and how to stop it) The oven vs gas hob arousal gap between men and women How to get out of your head and back into your body Why slowing down is genuinely the fastest route to a bigger orgasm The somatic tools Mel uses with her clients: breath, movement, placement of awareness Why crying after sex is a thing (and it's not weird) How to create new orgasmic pathways in your body, including cervical orgasms Mel's tip: check out https://www.beautifulcervix.com/see-your-own-beautiful-cervix/ if you want to actually see your own cervix (yes, really) This week's Pleasure Practice: Forget about the orgasm. Just touch your body for pleasure. In the shower, on the couch, wherever. Use breath, awareness and a little movement to build sensation. The orgasms will follow. This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets . Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered. SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexp…","meta_description":"Earth-shattering. It sounds ambitious, but Mel reckons it's not only possible, it's absolutely learnable. And it has nothing to do with performing, faking…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2941,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-have-earth-shattering-orgasms/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-have-earth-shattering-orgasms.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}