{"podcast":{"title":"How To Have Sex","slug":"how-to-have-sex-7724627","podcast_index_feed_id":7724627,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg","author":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes","episode_count":27,"summary":"How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how to have better orgasms, how to spice things up in a long-term relationship.... you get the idea. Shame-free, refreshingly practical, and occasionally so mortifying you'll need to pause it. New episodes weekly. Hosted by: Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women. Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness. Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-08T14:18:06.164963+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627"},"episode":{"title":"How To Have A Great Sex Life As Parents","slug":"how-to-have-a-great-sex-life-as-parents","published_at":"2026-09-01T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-have-a-great-sex-life-as-parents","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627","url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-have-a-great-sex-life-as-parents","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/6a9510691d52ae16baa469ae/media.mp3","summary":"Congratulations, you got the kids to sleep! Now lock the door.... this episode is just getting started. Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes sit down for one of the most requested topics yet: how to actually have a sex life once you've got kids. Melissa is three months postpartum with her second baby and deep in the newborn trenches, so this one's personal, honest, and refreshingly unfiltered. Together they unpack why parenthood doesn't kill your libido so much as it completely rewires it. From spontaneous desire to something Melissa calls \"responsive desire,\" and from candlelit dates to a stolen 90 seconds between nappy changes. In this episode: Why \"need-driven touch\" (hello, breastfeeding) can leave you touched out and not exactly craving more contact from your partner Spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and why waiting to \"feel horny\" first might be the whole problem \"Chore Play\": how unloading the dishwasher can genuinely be foreplay Melissa's raw, three-months-postpartum update on her own body, libido, and relationship Why exhaustion, not lack of attraction, is public enemy number one for parents' sex lives The gentle way she and her husband reconnected physically after birth, with zero pressure The \"sex menu\": a 5-minute, 10-minute and 30-minute system for intimacy on the busiest nights Getting your privacy back (a lock on the door is doing more heavy lifting than you'd think) \"Sexual currency\" - the small everyday moments that quietly build (or kill) desire Why obligatory sex causes more long-term damage than just... not having sex The weekly relationship check-in that keeps resentment from creeping in Whether you're in the newborn haze, wrangling a toddler, or years into parenting and just want your spark back, conside…","meta_description":"Congratulations, you got the kids to sleep! Now lock the door.... this episode is just getting started. Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relat…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3015,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-have-a-great-sex-life-as-parents/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-have-a-great-sex-life-as-parents.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}