{"podcast":{"title":"How To Have Sex","slug":"how-to-have-sex-7724627","podcast_index_feed_id":7724627,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg","author":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes","episode_count":27,"summary":"How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how to have better orgasms, how to spice things up in a long-term relationship.... you get the idea. Shame-free, refreshingly practical, and occasionally so mortifying you'll need to pause it. New episodes weekly. Hosted by: Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women. Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness. Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-08T14:18:06.164963+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627"},"episode":{"title":"How To Get Out Of Your Head During Sex","slug":"how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex","published_at":"2026-07-28T07:00:19+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627","url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/6a680aa1a02cbcf2a1da1051/media.mp3","summary":"Ever been fully naked, fully touched, and but still mentally reviewing the grocery list? Welcome to the club. This week Jay-Jay and Mel unpack why so many of us check out during sex, even when everything happening is objectively hot. They dig into the classic thinking-brain-versus-feeling-body problem, why meditation was never really about clearing your mind, the wild timing gap between when men and women tend to orgasm, and how old trauma responses like fawning can silently hijack your sex life without you noticing. Then Mel walks through her five go-to somatic tools, breath, awareness, movement, touch and sound, and demonstrates them live on the mic. Results: mixed, honest, very funny. Plus: redefining the quickie (it does not have to mean five minutes flat), the truth about lube, and why your partner genuinely cannot read your mind, so stop expecting them to. Homework included. Bring tissues, or don't, no judgment. Got a confession or a question for the show? Send it in, we might read it out (anonymously, always). How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams. This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets . Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HTHS for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered. JOIN OUR COMMUNITY! SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavese…","meta_description":"Ever been fully naked, fully touched, and but still mentally reviewing the grocery list? Welcome to the club. This week Jay-Jay and Mel unpack why so many…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2875,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}