{"podcast":{"title":"How To Have Sex","slug":"how-to-have-sex-7724627","podcast_index_feed_id":7724627,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg","author":"Jay-Jay Feeney & Melissa Vranjes","episode_count":27,"summary":"How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how to have better orgasms, how to spice things up in a long-term relationship.... you get the idea. Shame-free, refreshingly practical, and occasionally so mortifying you'll need to pause it. New episodes weekly. Hosted by: Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women. Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness. Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-08T14:18:06.164963+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627"},"episode":{"title":"How To Actually Get Your Needs Met In Bed  (Without Killing The Mood)","slug":"how-to-actually-get-your-needs-met-in-bed-without-killing-the-mood","published_at":"2026-05-19T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-actually-get-your-needs-met-in-bed-without-killing-the-mood","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627","url":"https://hthspodcast.substack.com/","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/6a09395b8bd09f5c48c7839a/media.mp3","summary":"Asking for what you want in bed might be the scariest thing you never do. Scarier than being naked. Scarier than asking for a pay rise. And for a lot of us, we'd rather go along with it, fake it, or hope they read our minds. In this episode, sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes and broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney get into the real reason we go quiet in the bedroom, and what to do about it. You'll learn: Why communication in bed is actually a courage problem, not a confidence problem The worst time (and best time) to bring up a new request How to frame what you want so it sounds like a connection, not a complaint What to do when your partner shuts down Scripts and examples you can actually use Whether you've been together forever or you're still in the honeymoon phase, this episode will help you stop hinting and start asking. Pleasure Practice: Build some courage. Pull the courage you already use outside the bedroom, and bring it in. How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Every episode is designed to educate, inform, and start the conversations that most of us were never taught to have. This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets . Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered. SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab , Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Per…","meta_description":"Asking for what you want in bed might be the scariest thing you never do. Scarier than being naked. Scarier than asking for a pay rise. And for a lot of u…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2743,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-actually-get-your-needs-met-in-bed-without-killing-the-mood/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-actually-get-your-needs-met-in-bed-without-killing-the-mood.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}