{"podcast":{"title":"How To Deal","slug":"how-to-deal-6351386","podcast_index_feed_id":6351386,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/attachmentnerd/","website_url":"https://www.attachmentnerd.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/e42cc46e-49c1-4f7b-929b-7f34b105df66/cover-optimized-with-logo.png","author":"Attachment Nerd","episode_count":34,"summary":"How To Deal is the podcast for parents who want to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of messy moments. Therapist and bestselling author Eli Harwood (aka The Attachment Nerd) brings you real stories, expert advice, and practical tools to build stronger relationships with your children—and yourself. Attachmentnerd.com","last_synced_at":"2026-07-18T02:21:30.497094+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386"},"episode":{"title":"Navigating Marriage in the Parenting Years | With Eli Weinstein","slug":"navigating-marriage-in-the-parenting-years-with-eli-weinstein","published_at":"2026-06-26T15:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386/navigating-marriage-in-the-parenting-years-with-eli-weinstein","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386","url":"https://podcast.attachmentnerd.com/episode/navigating-marriage-in-the-parenting-years-with-eli-weinstein","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/9b4b2f71-56d8-4f71-bbf8-2a14a824dc7c.mp3","summary":"Episode Summary Therapist, author, and host of The Dude Therapist podcast Eli Weinstein, LCSW joins the show to talk about one of the hardest (and least talked about) relationship challenges: staying connected to your partner while you're deep in the trenches of parenthood. Eli brings his signature no-BS warmth and humor to share real, actionable tools — including the \"First On Scene\" rule, the Huddle tactic, and how to tackle the invisible mental load — all drawn from his new book From I Do to We Do . Key Takeaways Take a pause before you take it out on your partner. When you're dysregulated in a parenting moment, step away for 2–5 minutes before engaging. Your kids will still be screaming — but your brain will be in a better place. The \"First On Scene\" rule. Whoever arrives first to handle a situation becomes the lead. Their way goes — as long as it's not dangerous. This eliminates power struggles and toe-stepping between partners. Make the mental load visible. Write down everything on your mental plate, sit with your partner, and ask (not demand): \"Is there anything on this list you can take?\" Let go enough to actually hand it over. Anticipation is the secret sauce. The partner NOT holding the mental load should proactively look ahead and ask, \"What can I take off your plate this week?\" — before being asked. Microdose your relationship with sweetness. Small daily rituals — a special phrase at bedtime, a little physical affection, a note — are the glue that holds couples together during chaos. It's us vs. the chaos, not us vs. each other. Use Eli's \"Huddle\" technique: check in on each other's energy, divide the game plan, and face the problem as a united front — not as opponents. Play to your strengths. Divide household labor based on what actually works for each per…","meta_description":"Episode Summary Therapist, author, and host of The Dude Therapist podcast Eli Weinstein, LCSW joins the show to talk about one of the hardest (and least t…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1495,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-deal-6351386/episodes/navigating-marriage-in-the-parenting-years-with-eli-weinstein/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386/navigating-marriage-in-the-parenting-years-with-eli-weinstein.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}