{"podcast":{"title":"How To Deal","slug":"how-to-deal-6351386","podcast_index_feed_id":6351386,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/attachmentnerd/","website_url":"https://www.attachmentnerd.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/e42cc46e-49c1-4f7b-929b-7f34b105df66/cover-optimized-with-logo.png","author":"Attachment Nerd","episode_count":34,"summary":"How To Deal is the podcast for parents who want to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of messy moments. Therapist and bestselling author Eli Harwood (aka The Attachment Nerd) brings you real stories, expert advice, and practical tools to build stronger relationships with your children—and yourself. Attachmentnerd.com","last_synced_at":"2026-07-18T02:21:30.497094+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386"},"episode":{"title":"How to Deal with Trauma Triggers as a Parent | Nerd Notes with Eli","slug":"how-to-deal-with-trauma-triggers-as-a-parent-nerd-notes-with-eli","published_at":"2026-05-20T15:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386/how-to-deal-with-trauma-triggers-as-a-parent-nerd-notes-with-eli","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386","url":"https://podcast.attachmentnerd.com/episode/how-to-deal-with-trauma-triggers-as-a-parent-nerd-notes-with-eli","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/d7c35ab0-cd3a-4512-9cbe-598c0f5649b0.mp3","summary":"Episode Summary In this solo episode, Eli Harwood (The Attachment Nerd) takes a compassionate dive into trauma — what it actually is, how it gets lodged in our bodies, and most importantly, how we begin to move through it. Eli breaks down the difference between a true trauma trigger and a new event, shares a deeply personal parenting story about her own trauma response, and offers practical, accessible tools for healing — including the concept of \"glimmers\" and the power of body awareness. Key Takeaways Trauma is personal. What feels traumatic to one person's nervous system may not to another's — and that's shaped by your wiring, lived history, and identity. Eli's working definition of trauma: Any experience that creates a significant threat to your physical safety, your social belonging, or your sense of dignity and identity. Trauma is more than the event. It's the event + your body's response + the narrative you build around both of those things. Triggers vs. new events: A trigger is your nervous system misreading the present as the past. A new event is genuinely difficult — and you're allowed to recognize that difference. Body memory is real. Your nervous system stores trauma as physical sensations — not just explicit memories — which is why healing requires body-based work, not just talking. The \"red berry\" metaphor: Your brain tries to protect you by pattern-matching past threats — but it can misfire on your toddler's tantrum the same way it would on a real danger. Healing practices matter. EMDR and Somatic Experiencing are two evidence-based modalities that work with the body to process trauma, not just the mind. Glimmers are your anchor. The concept coined by Deb Dana — small, grounding moments of safety — can be intentionally cultivated to help rewire your nerv…","meta_description":"Episode Summary In this solo episode, Eli Harwood (The Attachment Nerd) takes a compassionate dive into trauma — what it actually is, how it gets lodged i…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1229,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-deal-6351386/episodes/how-to-deal-with-trauma-triggers-as-a-parent-nerd-notes-with-eli/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386/how-to-deal-with-trauma-triggers-as-a-parent-nerd-notes-with-eli.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}