{"podcast":{"title":"How To Deal","slug":"how-to-deal-6351386","podcast_index_feed_id":6351386,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/attachmentnerd/","website_url":"https://www.attachmentnerd.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/e42cc46e-49c1-4f7b-929b-7f34b105df66/cover-optimized-with-logo.png","author":"Attachment Nerd","episode_count":34,"summary":"How To Deal is the podcast for parents who want to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of messy moments. Therapist and bestselling author Eli Harwood (aka The Attachment Nerd) brings you real stories, expert advice, and practical tools to build stronger relationships with your children—and yourself. Attachmentnerd.com","last_synced_at":"2026-07-18T02:21:30.497094+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386"},"episode":{"title":"How to Deal with Raising Secure Digital Citizens | With Jessical Joelle Alexander","slug":"how-to-deal-with-raising-secure-digital-citizens-with-jessical-joelle-alexander","published_at":"2026-06-06T15:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386/how-to-deal-with-raising-secure-digital-citizens-with-jessical-joelle-alexander","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386","url":"https://podcast.attachmentnerd.com/episode/how-to-deal-with-raising-secure-digital-citizens-with-jessical-joelle-alexander","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/2b4854ac-5843-4e45-92ea-3d566e6fd558.mp3","summary":"Episode Summary In this episode, Eli sits down with Danish parenting expert and bestselling author Jessica Joelle Alexander to tackle one of the most pressing questions facing parents today: how do we raise kids who are safe, healthy, and confident in the digital world — without resorting to fear, shame, or oversimplification? Jessica shares the Danish philosophy behind her work, the story of how she created the Raising Digital Citizens conversation cards, and why connection — not restriction — is the real key to protecting our kids online. Key Takeaways The digital world is a real world. Kids experience belonging, friendship, and identity online just as they do in person. Dismissing that reality puts distance between you and your child. Giving a child a phone is like handing them car keys. Preparation, conversation, and a co-created agreement matter far more than the age at which you hand it over. Denmark's education system tests for trivsel (well-being/happiness) — not just academics — because if kids don't feel well, they can't learn well. This philosophy extends to digital life. The most dangerous place for a child online is to feel alone. When kids fear losing their phone or getting in trouble, they won't come to you. Building trust is the ultimate protection. Reframing is everything. Instead of only focusing on the risks of technology, help your kids build a positive digital storyline — creative projects, businesses, fundraisers, and skills are all born online. Fear-based parenting around screens creates the same risk as avoiding conversations about puberty or sex — it leaves kids under-equipped when they inevitably encounter hard situations. Our language trickles down to our kids. When parents shame screen use, kids weaponize it against each other (e.g., calling…","meta_description":"Episode Summary In this episode, Eli sits down with Danish parenting expert and bestselling author Jessica Joelle Alexander to tackle one of the most pres…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1526,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-deal-6351386/episodes/how-to-deal-with-raising-secure-digital-citizens-with-jessical-joelle-alexander/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-deal-6351386/how-to-deal-with-raising-secure-digital-citizens-with-jessical-joelle-alexander.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}