{"podcast":{"title":"How Not To Suck At Divorce","slug":"how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361","podcast_index_feed_id":4488361,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce/","website_url":"https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/1deacb71-9108-4db9-8b85-e0f998650d70/HNTSAD-june-cover-art-2026.png","author":"Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport","episode_count":244,"summary":"How Not to Suck at Divorce Action Steps That Save You Money. Humor That Saves Your Sanity. Honesty That Helps You Heal. Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Before you spend thousands learning those lessons the hard way, check out our Divorce Crash Course—a $150 program available for just $50. It walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can protect your finances, avoid costly mistakes, and make smarter decisions from day one. 🎓 Learn more: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through—but getting through it doesn't have to cost you your financial future, your peace of mind, or your sense of humor. Hosted by comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport and powerhouse family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill, How Not to Suck at Divorce helps you navigate life before, during, and after divorce with relatable conversations, practical legal insights, and honest discussions about the emotional side of starting over. Every episode is designed to help you avoid expensive mistakes, better understand the legal process, communicate…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-11T12:23:54.468709+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361"},"episode":{"title":"194. Divorce After an Affair: How to Protect Your Divorce Strategy When Betrayal Wrecks Your Brain","slug":"194-divorce-after-an-affair-how-to-protect-your-divorce-strategy-when-betrayal-wrecks-your-brain","published_at":"2026-03-06T10:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361/194-divorce-after-an-affair-how-to-protect-your-divorce-strategy-when-betrayal-wrecks-your-brain","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361","url":"https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/b67ebb28-3578-43b9-b129-88ed6f97cd87.mp3","summary":"An affair can destroy your marriage — but it does not have to destroy your divorce strategy . In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce , family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill and comedian Andrea Rappaport tackle one of the most emotionally explosive divorce triggers: infidelity . Joined by therapist and Now What? podcast host Amy Neufeld , we break down what betrayal does to your nervous system, why your brain goes into survival mode, and how that can lead to expensive, irreversible divorce mistakes. If you’re going through divorce after an affair , this conversation will help you understand what’s happening in your body and mind — and give you practical action steps so you can make smarter decisions around custody, finances, and communication. In this episode, we cover: Why an affair can’t destroy your divorce strategy unless you let emotions run the case The “Chad and Brenda” story: how revenge spending and legal warfare can implode the marital estate Why infidelity is often attachment trauma (and why it feels like physical pain) What betrayal does to your brain: hypervigilance, panic, shutdown, and intrusive images The 3 common responses to betrayal: attack, despair, or detachment Why anger can feel productive — but still cloud judgment during divorce negotiations The unpopular truth: divorce lawyers can fire clients , especially when trauma turns into sabotage How to stop using the legal system for emotional relief (and why courts can’t “make it right”) Amy’s practical “Now What?” tools to stabilize after betrayal: Routine to rebuild predictability Contain the pain so it doesn’t take over your entire day Separate facts from your story to calm your nervous system and make clearer decisions Why “the story” can create collateral damage (friends, family, custody dy…","meta_description":"An affair can destroy your marriage — but it does not have to destroy your divorce strategy . 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