{"podcast":{"title":"How Not To Suck At Divorce","slug":"how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361","podcast_index_feed_id":4488361,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce/","website_url":"https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/1deacb71-9108-4db9-8b85-e0f998650d70/HNTSAD-june-cover-art-2026.png","author":"Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport","episode_count":230,"summary":"Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Get expert divorce advice, practical divorce help, and cost-effective divorce strategies to avoid costly mistakes, reduce legal fees, and navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Most people spend thousands learning this the hard way. Don’t be one of them. The Divorce Crash Course (a $150 value, available for $50) shows you exactly how to prepare for divorce, avoid costly legal mistakes, and protect your finances before you even hire a lawyer. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want real answers, smart strategy, and emotional clarity during one of the most stressful times of life. This isn’t surface-level advice or generic legal talk. It’s honest, practical divorce guidance designed to help you make better decisions from the very beginning. Hosted by powerhouse family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at one of the largest firms in the country, and comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, the show combines legal expertise with real-life experience. Together, they break down what actually matters in divorce and what too many peo…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T14:23:29.915222+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361"},"episode":{"title":"194. Divorce After an Affair: How to Protect Your Divorce Strategy When Betrayal Wrecks Your Brain","slug":"194-divorce-after-an-affair-how-to-protect-your-divorce-strategy-when-betrayal-wrecks-your-brain","published_at":"2026-03-06T10:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361/194-divorce-after-an-affair-how-to-protect-your-divorce-strategy-when-betrayal-wrecks-your-brain","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361","url":"https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/b67ebb28-3578-43b9-b129-88ed6f97cd87.mp3","summary":"An affair can destroy your marriage — but it does not have to destroy your divorce strategy . In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce , family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill and comedian Andrea Rappaport tackle one of the most emotionally explosive divorce triggers: infidelity . Joined by therapist and Now What? podcast host Amy Neufeld , we break down what betrayal does to your nervous system, why your brain goes into survival mode, and how that can lead to expensive, irreversible divorce mistakes. If you’re going through divorce after an affair , this conversation will help you understand what’s happening in your body and mind — and give you practical action steps so you can make smarter decisions around custody, finances, and communication. In this episode, we cover: Why an affair can’t destroy your divorce strategy unless you let emotions run the case The “Chad and Brenda” story: how revenge spending and legal warfare can implode the marital estate Why infidelity is often attachment trauma (and why it feels like physical pain) What betrayal does to your brain: hypervigilance, panic, shutdown, and intrusive images The 3 common responses to betrayal: attack, despair, or detachment Why anger can feel productive — but still cloud judgment during divorce negotiations The unpopular truth: divorce lawyers can fire clients , especially when trauma turns into sabotage How to stop using the legal system for emotional relief (and why courts can’t “make it right”) Amy’s practical “Now What?” tools to stabilize after betrayal: Routine to rebuild predictability Contain the pain so it doesn’t take over your entire day Separate facts from your story to calm your nervous system and make clearer decisions Why “the story” can create collateral damage (friends, family, custody dy…","meta_description":"An affair can destroy your marriage — but it does not have to destroy your divorce strategy . 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