{"podcast":{"title":"How Not To Suck At Divorce","slug":"how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361","podcast_index_feed_id":4488361,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce/","website_url":"https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/1deacb71-9108-4db9-8b85-e0f998650d70/HNTSAD-june-cover-art-2026.png","author":"Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport","episode_count":230,"summary":"Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Get expert divorce advice, practical divorce help, and cost-effective divorce strategies to avoid costly mistakes, reduce legal fees, and navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Most people spend thousands learning this the hard way. Don’t be one of them. The Divorce Crash Course (a $150 value, available for $50) shows you exactly how to prepare for divorce, avoid costly legal mistakes, and protect your finances before you even hire a lawyer. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want real answers, smart strategy, and emotional clarity during one of the most stressful times of life. This isn’t surface-level advice or generic legal talk. It’s honest, practical divorce guidance designed to help you make better decisions from the very beginning. Hosted by powerhouse family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at one of the largest firms in the country, and comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, the show combines legal expertise with real-life experience. Together, they break down what actually matters in divorce and what too many peo…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T14:23:29.915222+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361"},"episode":{"title":"189. When Your Divorcing Spouse Is Still Trying to Control You ( It’s Hurting Your Case)","slug":"189-when-your-divorcing-spouse-is-still-trying-to-control-you-it-s-hurting-your-case","published_at":"2026-02-06T10:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361/189-when-your-divorcing-spouse-is-still-trying-to-control-you-it-s-hurting-your-case","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361","url":"https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/4ed0597e-4271-438f-9eac-b848350b3112.mp3","summary":"If your ex is still controlling you and you keep reacting, explaining, or trying to keep the peace… you might be actively hurting your legal case without even realizing it. Because here’s the thing: divorce doesn’t cure controlling behavior —it often exposes it . And control doesn’t always look loud. Sometimes it looks “polite.” Sometimes it looks like silence. Sometimes it looks like a thousand tiny moments that make your stomach drop. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce , attorney Morgan Stogsdill and comedian Andrea Rappaport break down what control looks like after separation, why it escalates, and the legal + emotional action steps to shut it down. And yes—there’s also a story involving a tambourine, a fire-lit “happiness class,” and a man casually threatening everyone with a tombstone. (Welcome to the show.) What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ How control shows up during divorce (even when it’s not obvious) Morgan explains that control can look like: Financial control : “I’ll pay when I feel like it,” monitoring spending, moving goalposts Micromanaging parenting and second-guessing everything you do Weaponized silence / delayed responses to make you spiral Making you feel like you need permission for decisions you don’t need permission for “Polite” manipulation disguised as “concern for the kids” Why control often escalates after separation Andrea explains the psychology: when someone loses access and power, they often pull harder —because control is how they regulate their discomfort. The dangerous legal issue most people miss: “splitting” Morgan explains how controlling behavior can drive a wedge between you and your attorney—making you doubt your lawyer, hold back details, or get pulled into the ex’s narrative. That’s not just stressful. It can derai…","meta_description":"If your ex is still controlling you and you keep reacting, explaining, or trying to keep the peace… you might be actively hurting your legal case without…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2259,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361/episodes/189-when-your-divorcing-spouse-is-still-trying-to-control-you-it-s-hurting-your-case/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361/189-when-your-divorcing-spouse-is-still-trying-to-control-you-it-s-hurting-your-case.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}