{"podcast":{"title":"Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast","slug":"finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663","podcast_index_feed_id":3584663,"rss_url":"https://feeds.redcircle.com/a358dd62-56fe-49b1-8b63-b71555a5932b","website_url":"https://redcircle.com/shows/finding-mr-height-the-podcast","image_url":"https://media.redcircle.com/images/2025/5/12/16/4ee396ec-7358-4a21-be29-afcdbd727969_7ed1dcee1_12833571-1621211594237-26cf17c72cdc9.jpg","author":"Ali Jackson","episode_count":283,"summary":"On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both. Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight) Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)","last_synced_at":"2026-06-15T14:18:51.834791+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663"},"episode":{"title":"264. Hot Topics #22: First Messages, Being Someone's \"Type,\" and People-Pleasing in Progress","slug":"264-hot-topics-22-first-messages-being-someone-s-type-and-people-pleasing-in-progress","published_at":"2026-03-09T06:00:15+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663/264-hot-topics-22-first-messages-being-someone-s-type-and-people-pleasing-in-progress","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663","url":"https://findingmrheight.com/podcast","audio_url":"https://mgln.ai/e/137/s.gum.fm/s-622f6d1f9b96ac24488cce98/audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/6cca564c-6df8-4543-ba81-43f901ad43eb/stream.mp3","summary":"We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Mention: high involvement, low attachment, inspired by a TikTok from @mother.of.a.dilemma. From there, she answers three listener questions: one from a man who freezes before sending a first message, one from a woman who only swipes right when she already knows what to say, and one from a listener who is spiraling after learning a recent date is now dating someone who looks like his ex. Ali also tackles a question from a listener in therapy who can see her people-pleasing patterns clearly but can't stop them in the moment yet. In Updates, Ali recaps the FMH five-year anniversary party (including some unexpected social anxiety), a secret date night at Chateau Royale and underground jazz club Smalls, and a truly small-world moment at a couples happy hour. Media Mention: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8QcdfWg/ Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Armoire: Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/FMH Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Our Sponsors: * Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy","meta_description":"We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Mention: high…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2673,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663/episodes/264-hot-topics-22-first-messages-being-someone-s-type-and-people-pleasing-in-progress/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663/264-hot-topics-22-first-messages-being-someone-s-type-and-people-pleasing-in-progress.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}