{"podcast":{"title":"Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast","slug":"finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663","podcast_index_feed_id":3584663,"rss_url":"https://feeds.redcircle.com/a358dd62-56fe-49b1-8b63-b71555a5932b","website_url":"https://redcircle.com/shows/finding-mr-height-the-podcast","image_url":"https://media.redcircle.com/images/2025/5/12/16/4ee396ec-7358-4a21-be29-afcdbd727969_7ed1dcee1_12833571-1621211594237-26cf17c72cdc9.jpg","author":"Ali Jackson","episode_count":283,"summary":"On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both. Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight) Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)","last_synced_at":"2026-06-15T14:18:51.834791+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663"},"episode":{"title":"261. How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Becoming Rigid ft. Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond","slug":"261-how-to-stop-people-pleasing-without-becoming-rigid-ft-dr-paula-freedman-diamond","published_at":"2026-02-16T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663/261-how-to-stop-people-pleasing-without-becoming-rigid-ft-dr-paula-freedman-diamond","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663","url":"https://findingmrheight.com/podcast","audio_url":"https://mgln.ai/e/137/s.gum.fm/s-622f6d1f9b96ac24488cce98/audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/a152fb8e-7deb-44e3-84c5-aa3f01c6bb49/stream.mp3","summary":"Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and author of Toxic Striving, breaks down how people-pleasing and rigid boundary-setting are two sides of the same coin: both are attempts to control outcomes and avoid uncomfortable feelings. The conversation explores how to identify when you're prioritizing external validation over your own values and what the middle ground looks like between being overly accommodating and overly rigid. Paula also shares insights on acceptance and commitment therapy, learning to hold your desires lightly while staying grounded in your values. In Updates, Ali shares a vulnerable conversation that originally aired on the Patreon about societal expectations around women's appearance. This week's Media Mention is: \"The New Rules of Dating for Ambitious Women\" from the Ambition 2.0 podcast (by Girlboss), featuring breakup expert and friend of the pod Amy Chan. Where to find Dr. Paula: On Instagram @mindfuldrpaula , on TikTok @mindfuldrpaula , at www.paulafreedmandiamond.com and www.humankindpsych.com . Grab Dr. Paula's Book \"Toxic Striving\" here: www.paulafreedmandiamond.com Timestamps: Dr. Paula joins us at around minute 33. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Armoire: Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/FMH Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Homeaglow: Head to https://homeaglow.com/mrheight to get…","meta_description":"Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and author o…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4874,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663/episodes/261-how-to-stop-people-pleasing-without-becoming-rigid-ft-dr-paula-freedman-diamond/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663/261-how-to-stop-people-pleasing-without-becoming-rigid-ft-dr-paula-freedman-diamond.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}