{"podcast":{"title":"Feminist Wellness","slug":"feminist-wellness-15519","podcast_index_feed_id":15519,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/feminist-wellness/","website_url":"https://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/a7586ad9-3301-41e7-82b3-5666835690fe/-hV1YQpPtas-bb50LBxFAVDp.jpg","author":"Béa Victoria Albina","episode_count":444,"summary":"You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is \"self-care\" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-23T14:21:04.766597+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519"},"episode":{"title":"Tenderoni Hotline #33: Why Am I Always in Fight Mode? + Learning to Love Safely After Trauma","slug":"tenderoni-hotline-33-why-am-i-always-in-fight-mode-learning-to-love-safely-after-trauma","published_at":"2026-05-19T04:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519/tenderoni-hotline-33-why-am-i-always-in-fight-mode-learning-to-love-safely-after-trauma","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519","url":"https://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/0afc1191-e8ab-4c07-9154-321db22142bd.mp3","summary":"Tenderoni Hotline #33: Why do some people default to fight mode instead of people-pleasing? And can someone with developmental trauma actually learn to feel safe in love? In this Tenderoni Hotline episode, we explore the hidden relationship between emotional outsourcing, chronic nervous system activation, and the fight response. If you’ve ever felt constantly braced, reactive, angry, burnt out, or unseen, this conversation will help you understand what your body has been trying to protect. We also answer a deeply tender listener question about learning to love safely after developmental trauma. Together, we unpack attachment wounds, functional freeze, interoception, somatic healing, and the slow, powerful process of building secure attachment in adulthood. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Learn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/courses Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Join Nervous System Signals and Safety! You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety Nervous System Signals and Safety","meta_description":"Tenderoni Hotline #33: Why do some people default to fight mode instead of people-pleasing? And can someone with developmental trauma actually learn to fe…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1211,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/feminist-wellness-15519/episodes/tenderoni-hotline-33-why-am-i-always-in-fight-mode-learning-to-love-safely-after-trauma/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519/tenderoni-hotline-33-why-am-i-always-in-fight-mode-learning-to-love-safely-after-trauma.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}