{"podcast":{"title":"Feminist Wellness","slug":"feminist-wellness-15519","podcast_index_feed_id":15519,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/feminist-wellness/","website_url":"https://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/a7586ad9-3301-41e7-82b3-5666835690fe/-hV1YQpPtas-bb50LBxFAVDp.jpg","author":"Béa Victoria Albina","episode_count":444,"summary":"You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is \"self-care\" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-23T14:21:04.766597+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519"},"episode":{"title":"Tenderoni Hotline #30: Emotional Guardedness Explained + How to Feel Safe Without Safe People","slug":"tenderoni-hotline-30-emotional-guardedness-explained-how-to-feel-safe-without-safe-people","published_at":"2026-04-28T04:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519/tenderoni-hotline-30-emotional-guardedness-explained-how-to-feel-safe-without-safe-people","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminist-wellness-15519","url":"https://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/c72fc63c-b80f-4a2b-833e-48d04d6bd507.mp3","summary":"Tenderoni Hotline #30: If you have ever been called too independent, emotionally guarded, or hard to get close to, this episode is for you. Because hyper-independence is not just a personality trait. It is often a nervous system strategy that formed to keep you safe. In this Tenderoni Hotline, we explore a quieter, often overlooked side of emotional outsourcing. Not the people pleasing or overgiving version, but the self-reliant, closed-off pattern that says I do not need anyone. We look at how emotional guardedness can still be rooted in seeking safety, belonging, and worth outside of yourself, just in a different direction that feels more controlled but often more isolating. We also dive into a question that the wellness world does not answer well. What are you supposed to do when you do not have anyone safe to co-regulate with? If you grew up without consistent, safe support, the advice to just find your people can feel inaccessible or even activating. This episode offers a different approach, one that honors your lived experience while giving you practical ways to begin building safety from within. Together, we talk about why closeness can feel unsafe in your body, how these patterns make sense, and how to begin softening them in small, doable ways that do not overwhelm your system. You will learn how to start creating moments of safety, connection, and regulation without forcing vulnerability or depending on unsafe relationships. You are not broken for being guarded. You adapted in ways that made sense at the time. And you can learn to feel safe again, at your own pace, in your own way. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Learn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/courses Follow me he…","meta_description":"Tenderoni Hotline #30: If you have ever been called too independent, emotionally guarded, or hard to get close to, this episode is for you. 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