{"podcast":{"title":"Do As We Say, Not As They Did","slug":"do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812","podcast_index_feed_id":7726812,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/608340/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/608340","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/0/6/e/7/06e76851652d7cc4d959afa2a1bf1c87/do_as_we_say_logo.png","author":"Harris O'Malley","episode_count":27,"summary":"An unfiltered dating podcast all about love, sex, relationships, and all the ways humans are sometimes really bad at them. Dr. NerdLove and Dr. Liz Powell break down what not do, and what actually works.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-16T22:18:24.014668+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812"},"episode":{"title":"Polyamory Won't Fix Your Relationship, but It Sure Will Expose It","slug":"polyamory-won-t-fix-your-relationship-but-it-sure-will-expose-it","published_at":"2026-06-03T09:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/polyamory-won-t-fix-your-relationship-but-it-sure-will-expose-it","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812","url":"https://bcddb042-54aa-4575-834d-8f65ebfb49f9.libsyn.com/polyamory-wont-fix-your-relationship-but-it-sure-will-expose-it","audio_url":"https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/bcddb042-54aa-4575-834d-8f65ebfb49f9/DAWS_13.mp3?dest-id=5300385","summary":"What happens when people open a relationship without unpacking everything monogamy taught them first? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell sit down with Kristen VanKlootwyk, psychotherapist and co-creator of The Non Monogamy Card Game, to talk about the communication that doesn't always happen in poly relationships…but really should. Then, they discuss two struggling Redditors: one man who's struggling to find dates when his wife isn't, and a woman who said yes to opening a relationship to make her husband happy, but now she's miserable. Highlights of the episode: How you can improve your relationship communication with The Non-Monogamy Card Game Healthy communication in poly relationships will help you gain a Jedi-like sense of self-awareness Why polyamory isn't just about balancing multiple relationships, but also your self-care and personal needs Old people are getting busy, and that's GREAT 😉 A loving reminder of what boundaries are, and why it's your job to enforce them Polyamorous or monogamous, communication, emotional processing, and boundary setting are all necessary skills to build relationships that work for everyone involved. So open up your notes app and get ready for all the resources, gentle reminders, and nerdy metaphors you need to create relationships that truly bring you joy. Who is Kristen VanKlootwyk, and what is The Non Monogamy Card Game? Kristen VanKlootwyk is a psychotherapist who, along with their good friend Ayala, set out to create a resource to help friends and clients ask the right questions and engage with their partners to build strong poly relationships. After developing 150 foundational and developmental questions, they released The Non Monogamy Card Game as a versatile resource to help g…","meta_description":"What happens when people open a relationship without unpacking everything monogamy taught them first? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Ha…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":7204,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/episodes/polyamory-won-t-fix-your-relationship-but-it-sure-will-expose-it/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/polyamory-won-t-fix-your-relationship-but-it-sure-will-expose-it.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}