{"podcast":{"title":"Do As We Say, Not As They Did","slug":"do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812","podcast_index_feed_id":7726812,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/608340/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/608340","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/0/6/e/7/06e76851652d7cc4d959afa2a1bf1c87/do_as_we_say_logo.png","author":"Harris O'Malley","episode_count":27,"summary":"An unfiltered dating podcast all about love, sex, relationships, and all the ways humans are sometimes really bad at them. Dr. NerdLove and Dr. Liz Powell break down what not do, and what actually works.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-16T22:18:24.014668+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812"},"episode":{"title":"How Misogyny Ruins Relationships","slug":"how-misogyny-ruins-relationships","published_at":"2026-06-10T09:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/how-misogyny-ruins-relationships","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812","url":"https://bcddb042-54aa-4575-834d-8f65ebfb49f9.libsyn.com/how-misogyny-ruins-relationships","audio_url":"https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/bcddb042-54aa-4575-834d-8f65ebfb49f9/DAWS_Ep_7-2.mp3?dest-id=5300385","summary":"We have a question for you: Do you actually want a partner, or are you just looking for someone to call your girlfriend? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell share two Reddit stories that reveal just how much the manosphere has poisoned modern dating, and the actual work it takes to build and maintain healthy, happy relationships. First up is a man who leaves his wife of 20 years for a 20-something, only to realize that putting zero work and effort into a relationship will only ever result in failure. Then, Dr. Liz and Harris tackle an absurd ultimatum: a boyfriend demands that his girlfriend laser all her body hair to \"prove she'll sacrifice for the relationship.\" They're sure you can guess how much he's willing to sacrifice for her… Highlights of the episode: The male loneliness narrative Why Harris considers himself more of a badger than a bear Some mutual venting about how much shaving sucks The bottom line is that healthy relationships take effort. And if you don't have good intentions, trust, and mutual respect, your relationship troubles will be sure to follow you. Time Stamps 00:00 - Welcome to the show 00:40 - Weather, capitalism, and Bay Area rent 04:00 - First Reddit story: \"My ex-wife predicted my future\" 06:00 - Leaving a long marriage for a younger partner 09:00 - Why relationships stagnate 12:20 - Relationship maintenance and emotional labor 16:30 - Small acts of care to keep relationships strong 19:30 - Midlife crises and aging anxiety 24:20 - Why large age-gap relationships can struggle 27:00 - Dating dynamics in poly and kink communities 29:30 - The \"no communication for a week\" dating problem 31:00 - Accountability and the consequences of cheating 34:30 - Divorce, grief, and relief 35:30 - Do men still…","meta_description":"We have a question for you: Do you actually want a partner, or are you just looking for someone to call your girlfriend? In this episode of Do As We Say,…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4500,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/episodes/how-misogyny-ruins-relationships/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/how-misogyny-ruins-relationships.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}