{"podcast":{"title":"Do As We Say, Not As They Did","slug":"do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812","podcast_index_feed_id":7726812,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/608340/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/608340","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/0/6/e/7/06e76851652d7cc4d959afa2a1bf1c87/do_as_we_say_logo.png","author":"Harris O'Malley","episode_count":27,"summary":"An unfiltered dating podcast all about love, sex, relationships, and all the ways humans are sometimes really bad at them. Dr. NerdLove and Dr. Liz Powell break down what not do, and what actually works.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-16T22:18:24.014668+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812"},"episode":{"title":"Dating Apps Aren't Keeping You from Finding Love","slug":"dating-apps-aren-t-keeping-you-from-finding-love","published_at":"2026-07-15T09:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/dating-apps-aren-t-keeping-you-from-finding-love","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812","url":"https://bcddb042-54aa-4575-834d-8f65ebfb49f9.libsyn.com/dating-apps-arent-keeping-you-from-finding-love","audio_url":"https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/bcddb042-54aa-4575-834d-8f65ebfb49f9/DAWS_Ep_18.mp3?dest-id=5300385","summary":"Could your biggest obstacle to dating success be the advice you've been following? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley endure the trenches of r/PurplePillDebate, a supposedly neutral subreddit where you somehow end up with advice like \"Men, don't talk to women.\" Huh? According to one self-proclaimed 10, \"ugly\" men shouldn't bother trying to talk to a woman in person because they simply have no chance. After all, if no one wants to swipe right online, what makes face-to-face any different? And boy howdy, do Harris and Dr. Liz have some thoughts. Tune in for: Dating is not a business, so stop looking for your ROI People can sense desperation, and it's not attractive How misogyny hurts both men and women You'll be more interesting if you're interested in things (genuinely interested) Tom Holland's Umbrella performance is the hottest thing to ever exist Looks are a small part of attraction Most people just want to make a connection. But they want to make a connection with someone who has hobbies and enjoys things. If you've been striking out in the dating department, take some notes. You just might have been getting advice from the wrong place. Time Stamps 00:00 - Welcome! 02:15 - r/PurplePillDebate \"Don't Talk to Women in Person\" 03:00 - Are dating apps designed to keep you single? 05:28 - Why dating apps are frustrating for everyone 05:49 - What is the \"purple pill?\" 06:55 - Jumping into u/WoodenHuckleberry693's dating philosophy 09:20 - Please don't look for the ROI in dating 12:23 - Cold approaches vs genuine connections 15:11 - Hobbies aren't pickup opportunities 16:20 - Dating profile choices that turn people away 18:48 - Matches don't equal dates 20:40 - Become a whole person before looking for a partner 23:29 - What…","meta_description":"Could your biggest obstacle to dating success be the advice you've been following? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Ha…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4293,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/episodes/dating-apps-aren-t-keeping-you-from-finding-love/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812/dating-apps-aren-t-keeping-you-from-finding-love.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}