{"podcast":{"title":"Decoding Success with Matt LeBris","slug":"decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466","podcast_index_feed_id":337466,"rss_url":"https://decodingsuccess.libsyn.com/rss","website_url":"http://mattlebris.com/podcast","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/5/c/3/9/5c39b3e82dcfc91016c3140a3186d450/Option_4_Script_Font.png","author":"Decoding Success with Matt LeBris","episode_count":386,"summary":"Welcome to The Decoding Success Podcast - the show for high-performers who have used their trauma to fuel their success. If you have ever felt like a black sheep, someone who experienced isolation, neglect, or disconnection, you're in the right place as we guide our community to feel seen, understood, and connected to their highest selves. Matt LeBris hosts our weekly show, as he dives deep with world-renowned leaders in business, entertainment, sports, science, health, and literature, providing invaluable insights on emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual well-being. Each episode features deep, transformative conversations designed to reconnect you with your true self. Our mission is to guide you on a journey of self-discovery, helping you go from feeling isolated to feeling seen, from anxious to connected, from being hard on yourself to giving grace. Whether you're seeking to identify your path to healing trauma, anxiety or dark days, make mindset shifts to step into your highest self, or break free from what no longer serves you, The Decoding Success Podcast is here to help. While you might hear some woo-woo things, make no mistake because you're going to get the…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-08T08:30:13.782380+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466"},"episode":{"title":"379. The Truth About Love Most People Learn Too Late | Amy Chan","slug":"379-the-truth-about-love-most-people-learn-too-late-amy-chan","published_at":"2026-05-21T09:58:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466/379-the-truth-about-love-most-people-learn-too-late-amy-chan","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466","url":"https://decodingsuccess.libsyn.com/379-the-truth-about-love-most-people-learn-too-late-amy-chan","audio_url":"https://pdcn.co/e/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/decodingsuccess/Amy_Chan_Final.mp3?dest-id=1664729","summary":"Most people think they have a dating problem. What they actually have is a pattern problem. Watch our episode on YouTube We don't just choose partners. We choose familiarity. And for a lot of people, that means unconsciously chasing the same emotional experience over and over again. The hot-and-cold dynamic. The anxiety. The longing. The feeling of having to earn love instead of safely receiving it. Relationship expert and bestselling author Amy Chan explains why so many people keep falling for unavailable partners, confusing chemistry with compatibility, and mistaking chaos for passion. Because the truth is, healthy love often feels unfamiliar before it feels safe. This conversation goes far deeper than dating advice. Amy breaks down the psychology behind limerence, nervous system activation, repetition compulsion, and why people unconsciously recreate the emotional wounds they experienced in childhood. She shares the exact patterns that quietly sabotage relationships, the role inconsistency plays in triggering anxiety, and why stable love can initially feel \"boring\" to people conditioned by unpredictability. Matt and Amy also unpack modern dating culture, the pressure created by social media expectations, and the dangerous advice being normalized online. Together, they explore what actually creates lasting love: commitment, mutuality, emotional safety, integrity, and the willingness to work through discomfort instead of running from it. Amy opens up vulnerably about her own relationship patterns, the years she spent chasing emotionally unavailable people, and the personal breakthrough that finally changed everything. The result is a masterclass on love, attachment, healing, friendship, emotional maturity, and what it truly means to build relationships that last. If y…","meta_description":"Most people think they have a dating problem. What they actually have is a pattern problem. 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