{"podcast":{"title":"Decoding Success with Matt LeBris","slug":"decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466","podcast_index_feed_id":337466,"rss_url":"https://decodingsuccess.libsyn.com/rss","website_url":"http://mattlebris.com/podcast","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/5/c/3/9/5c39b3e82dcfc91016c3140a3186d450/Option_4_Script_Font.png","author":"Decoding Success with Matt LeBris","episode_count":386,"summary":"Welcome to The Decoding Success Podcast - the show for high-performers who have used their trauma to fuel their success. If you have ever felt like a black sheep, someone who experienced isolation, neglect, or disconnection, you're in the right place as we guide our community to feel seen, understood, and connected to their highest selves. Matt LeBris hosts our weekly show, as he dives deep with world-renowned leaders in business, entertainment, sports, science, health, and literature, providing invaluable insights on emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual well-being. Each episode features deep, transformative conversations designed to reconnect you with your true self. Our mission is to guide you on a journey of self-discovery, helping you go from feeling isolated to feeling seen, from anxious to connected, from being hard on yourself to giving grace. Whether you're seeking to identify your path to healing trauma, anxiety or dark days, make mindset shifts to step into your highest self, or break free from what no longer serves you, The Decoding Success Podcast is here to help. While you might hear some woo-woo things, make no mistake because you're going to get the…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-08T08:30:13.782380+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466"},"episode":{"title":"367. Why You Keep Self-Abandoning (and How to Finally Come Home to Yourself) | Kate Eckman","slug":"367-why-you-keep-self-abandoning-and-how-to-finally-come-home-to-yourself-kate-eckman","published_at":"2026-01-06T11:31:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466/367-why-you-keep-self-abandoning-and-how-to-finally-come-home-to-yourself-kate-eckman","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/decoding-success-with-matt-lebris-337466","url":"https://decodingsuccess.libsyn.com/367-why-you-keep-self-abandoning-and-how-to-finally-come-home-to-yourself-kate-eckman","audio_url":"https://pdcn.co/e/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/decodingsuccess/Kate_Eckman_Final.mp3?dest-id=1664729","summary":"Kate Eckman breaks down why so many high-achieving people feel disconnected despite doing everything \"right.\" She explains how self-abandonment begins early in life as a way to earn love, safety, and approval—and how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overachievement are survival responses, not strengths. Drawing from her own healing journey, Kate reveals why emotional invalidation teaches us to doubt our instincts, silence our truth, and perform instead of feel. She shares why choosing yourself often feels lonely, how solitude exposes what distraction hides, and why telling the truth—kindly and clearly—is the foundation of real self-love. This isn't about motivation or positive thinking; it's about stopping self-betrayal, releasing old identities, and coming home to yourself. Watch our episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MattLeBris Monetize your personal brand in 2026: https://freebrandcall.com/mattlebris In this episode you will: Understand how self-abandonment forms and shapes relationships, success, and identity Learn why people-pleasing and perfectionism are trauma responses, not personality traits Discover why being alone feels uncomfortable—and how it leads to self-trust Identify when it's time to let go of an identity that no longer fits Redefine success as living in truth instead of performing for approval Connect with Kate: Listen to her podcast: https://www.kateeckman.tv/podcast Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kateeckman/ -- Connect with Matt: Instagram YouTube -- Hey, if you made it this far in the show notes... thank you for your support. I'm grateful you're not only listening to the show, but you're engaged enough to read this. It would mean the world to show if you shared this with someone who needs it. 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