{"podcast":{"title":"Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women","slug":"dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women-1013303","podcast_index_feed_id":1013303,"rss_url":"https://feeds.redcircle.com/25261569-f242-4d8d-9bfc-02de38bd0e8b","website_url":"https://redcircle.com/shows/dear-men","image_url":"https://media.redcircle.com/images/2023/5/25/23/d8cd30b4-a5c8-42ee-a695-7cec4685aed9_1a644c9c2_dear_men_podcast_thumbnail_1400x1400.jpg","author":"Melanie Curtin","episode_count":417,"summary":"Advice for smart men on how to succeed with women in sex, dating, relationships, and marriages. Beautiful women give you a peek behind the curtain into what the feminine really craves from the masculine ... and how to give it to us. Personal growth is sexy, haven't you heard? Get in touch at dearmenpodcast@gmail.com. Take our free training for men at https://evolutionary.men/dearmen","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women-1013303"},"episode":{"title":"402: What helps a sexually guarded woman feel safe to open? (ft. Violet Lange)","slug":"402-what-helps-a-sexually-guarded-woman-feel-safe-to-open-ft-violet-lange","published_at":"2026-02-27T11:00:53+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women-1013303/402-what-helps-a-sexually-guarded-woman-feel-safe-to-open-ft-violet-lange","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women-1013303","url":"http://www.melaniecurtin.com","audio_url":"https://audio2.redcircle.com/episodes/b28e1187-276d-43c6-b2a2-eb0859fe028a/stream.mp3","summary":"“A common pattern we see is that the sex has dried up.” In millions of marriages around the globe, one partner is starving for intimacy, and the other feels confused, frightened, frozen, or all three. The sexually guarded partner doesn't know how to open, and their partner feels stuck, unhappy and alone. So what can they do? Here we explore exactly that, with a focus on a woman partner who may be terrified of engaging in sexual healing. We explore the origins and root causes of this pattern, as well as sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, love, commitment, and connection. We talk about the phenomenon of: “I’m so flooded now that we have kids that it’s really hard for me to have the bandwidth to connect physically with anyone.” And: “Our lack of physical intimacy started bleeding into a lack of emotional intimacy.\" \\We also talk about the prevalence of sexual trauma, whether from childhood or adulthood or both, as well as how to heal from it. Hint: One of the best ways to move through it is as a woman is not with a love relationship partner, but with other women. Sisterhood is powerful medicine. Mentioned on this episode: Violet's program for women: Love Integrated (https://loveandlegacy.circle.so/LoveIntegrated) Violet & Jason & Luke's program for women: Heart of Shadow for Women (https://heartofshadow.com/women/) DM 1: Pain in Pleasure, Pleasure in Pain DM 348: ‘I wish we had sex more.’ (ft. Violet Lange) DM 325: What if *every* woman had a self-pleasure practice? DM 265: What if she's got a sexual trauma background? How do you help? (ft. Violet Lange) DM 227: How a woman can reclaim her erotic essence (ft. Violet Lange) Memorable quotes: “It can be very easy for a woman to avoid these conversations.” “Couples are complex systems.” “If you can’t talk about sex…","meta_description":"“A common pattern we see is that the sex has dried up.” In millions of marriages around the globe, one partner is starving for intimacy, and the other fee…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4001,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women-1013303/episodes/402-what-helps-a-sexually-guarded-woman-feel-safe-to-open-ft-violet-lange/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women-1013303/402-what-helps-a-sexually-guarded-woman-feel-safe-to-open-ft-violet-lange.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}