{"podcast":{"title":"Crystal Paine Show","slug":"crystal-paine-show-893314","podcast_index_feed_id":893314,"rss_url":"https://feeds.redcircle.com/dd9fe13c-ae50-401e-bdf6-0edc2993d002","website_url":"https://redcircle.com/shows/crystal-paine-show","image_url":"https://media.redcircle.com/images/2022/12/7/22/3bef1b13-5ef3-40e4-ba44-828188c2505f_720e-4957-a559-0a8e13608114_crystal-paine-show.jpg","author":"Crystal Paine","episode_count":346,"summary":"The Crystal Paine Show is dedicated to helping you embrace life right where you are and take practical steps to get where you want to go. Crystal says, \"My hope is that this podcast will serve as an inspiration to your week, a pause in your day to slow down and reflect a little, a looked-forward-to part of your weekly routine, a place where we can connect on a deeper level… and ultimately, my desire is that you come away from listening to each episode feeling motivated to bloom where you are planted and take intentional steps to move in the direction you are longing to go.\" Crystal is a wife, mom of 3, speaker, author, and online entrepreneur, best known for founding MoneySavingMom.com as well as YourBloggingMentor.com.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/crystal-paine-show-893314"},"episode":{"title":"334: Don’t Burn Your House Down with Lindsey Maestas","slug":"334-don-t-burn-your-house-down-with-lindsey-maestas","published_at":"2026-02-03T08:00:03+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/crystal-paine-show-893314/334-don-t-burn-your-house-down-with-lindsey-maestas","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/crystal-paine-show-893314","url":"http://crystalpaine.com/","audio_url":"https://audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/851fda49-09f5-4ae4-9e8c-d6891ccfa05d/stream.mp3","summary":"Several years ago, Lindsey Maestas challenged me to see Jesse not as another task on my never-ending list but rather as a person again - a moment that stuck with me, and in this season of raising a big family and carrying a lot of weight, I realized how easily my marriage had slipped to the back burner. So for this episode, I invited Lindsey on to talk about what it really looks like to choose your marriage when life is busy or you are tired, hurting, or feeling like life is difficult. Using her book Don’t Burn Your House Down as the basis of our conversation, Lindsey and I talk about the quiet disappointments that build up such as when a gift feels impersonal or you feel completely unseen and why those moments often point to deeper needs, not deal-breakers. Lindsey shares why love doesn’t “just happen,” how unspoken expectations create distance, and what to do when your spouse hears your requests as criticism or failure. We uncover the anxious–avoidant cycle, the danger of keeping emotional receipts, and why fighting fire with fire only burns the house down even faster. One of my favorite parts of this episode is honestly when we shift away from heavy conversations and talk about rebuilding friendship. Laughter, play, small acts of service, and even silly moments can soften hearts in ways that words sometimes can’t, and Lindsay explains the power of what she calls “micro attractions” - the tiny daily choices that quietly say, “I see you.” We also talk about why trying to change your spouse almost never works and how real change begins when you look honestly at yourself. This conversation is for anyone who feels lonely in their marriage, overwhelmed by life, or just wants to build a stronger marriage. It’s not about pretending things are fine but rather about choosing…","meta_description":"Several years ago, Lindsey Maestas challenged me to see Jesse not as another task on my never-ending list but rather as a person again - a moment that stu…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2160,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/crystal-paine-show-893314/episodes/334-don-t-burn-your-house-down-with-lindsey-maestas/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/crystal-paine-show-893314/334-don-t-burn-your-house-down-with-lindsey-maestas.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}