{"podcast":{"title":"Cocktales with Kiki","slug":"cocktales-dirty-discussions-543763","podcast_index_feed_id":543763,"rss_url":"https://www.spreaker.com/show/2818687/episodes/feed","website_url":"https://www.spreaker.com/show/cocktales-dirty-discussions","image_url":"https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/54ba576a71579f952ff3855fa466c6dd.jpg","author":"Kiki Said So","episode_count":500,"summary":"Cocktales with Kiki is the place where cocktails meet candid conversation, hosted by Kiki Said So. What started with wild stories about sex, dating, and relationships has grown into something bigger: the kind of conversations you have over dinner with your girls, in the group chat at 2 a.m., or after somebody says, “Okay, but can I tell y’all what REALLY happened?” From love, friendship, and questionable decisions to pop culture, travel, internet rabbit holes, and whatever has Kiki curious this week, nothing is too random to make it to the table. Some weeks Kiki is riding solo, other weeks friends and guests pull up to add their own Cocktales to the mix. Expect laughs, unfiltered opinions, unsolicited advice, a little mess, a lot of curiosity, and of course, a cocktail or two. Because life gives us plenty to talk about, and around here, every sip has a story. 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