{"podcast":{"title":"CLOSER with Rachel Lim","slug":"closer-with-rachel-lim-6348501","podcast_index_feed_id":6348501,"rss_url":"https://rss2.flightcast.com/cdzgxanz9eqfjcxk8fpnb69q.xml","website_url":"https://rachreflects.com","image_url":"https://files.flightcast.com/workspaces/izhpu8x38h1htdiizi8fxncu/01M2J0M6N9W4RJDRFQCCKKTD4D/closerwithrachellim_podcast_thumbnail.jpg","author":"Rachel Lim","episode_count":83,"summary":"CLOSER with Rachel Lim is about the conversations beneath the surface. Rachel sits down with people who fascinate her to explore not just what they’ve done, but what has shaped who they are: the experiences, relationships, contradictions, failures, beliefs and questions that have made them who they are today. Alongside long-form conversations are personal reflections from Rachel on what she is learning, unlearning and seeing differently in her own life. There may not always be a clear answer.. but perhaps the point is to come away seeing someone differently, seeing ourselves differently, and feeling a little closer. To ourselves. To each other. To what matters.","last_synced_at":"2026-09-16T10:20:04.562106+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/closer-with-rachel-lim-6348501"},"episode":{"title":"#51: Tan Kheng Hua: On Choosing Yourself Without Apology","slug":"51-tan-kheng-hua-on-choosing-yourself-without-apology","published_at":"2026-03-10T23:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/closer-with-rachel-lim-6348501/51-tan-kheng-hua-on-choosing-yourself-without-apology","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/closer-with-rachel-lim-6348501","url":"https://episode.flightcast.com/01KKBSN76X48K81RXC6J7F70KX.mp3","audio_url":"https://episode.flightcast.com/01KKBSN76X48K81RXC6J7F70KX.mp3","summary":"Tan Kheng Hua is one of Singapore’s most beloved actors; known for Phua Chu Kang, Crazy Rich Asians, and three seasons of Kung Fu on The CW. She has spent a lifetime choosing herself, not selfishly, but deliberately. And in doing so, she became a better mother, a better artist, and a more grounded human being. She did not build a long and remarkable career by chasing what looked good or what felt safe. She built it by returning, again and again, to what felt true. To joy over ego. To interest over image. To a life she did not have to shrink in order to hold. In this episode, Kheng Hua speaks with striking honesty about what it really takes to stay rooted in your craft, your relationships, and yourself. We spoke about: motherhood, and why she refused to let it shrink her life. ⁠the decision-making rule she has followed for decades that gave her her longevity. ⁠divorce, co-parenting, and how a friendship outlasted a marriage. ⁠the honesty cave: going inward, admitting the ugly feelings first, and choosing the next step from truth rather than fear. ⁠therapy, and why she believes gathering the tools to be better is not optional, but a responsibility to everyone who loves you. This is a conversation about living from the inside out. About following joy over ego. About learning that being responsible and being happy are not opposites after all. Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:34 The Childhood That Quietly Shaped Everything 00:06:50 What Her 25-Year-Old Self Would Never Have Predicted 00:10:32 Why She Treated Her Daughter Like a Person, Not a Project 00:16:12 \"My Purpose Was Never Just For Her\" 00:22:25 The Secret to Co-Parenting With Someone You Divorced After 27 Years 00:27:16 The 8am Class Nobody Wanted That Changed Her Life 00:35:12 The One Habit Behind 30 Years of S…","meta_description":"Tan Kheng Hua is one of Singapore’s most beloved actors; known for Phua Chu Kang, Crazy Rich Asians, and three seasons of Kung Fu on The CW. She has spent…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3612,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/closer-with-rachel-lim-6348501/episodes/51-tan-kheng-hua-on-choosing-yourself-without-apology/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/closer-with-rachel-lim-6348501/51-tan-kheng-hua-on-choosing-yourself-without-apology.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}