{"podcast":{"title":"But For Real","slug":"but-for-real-7020454","podcast_index_feed_id":7020454,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/but-for-real/","website_url":"https://gaiacenter.co/podcast","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/f6c3e500-9849-404f-bd0e-a8093914ab9c/qdIBdn9PJwJRHYs_p1MTjPQ5.jpg","author":"Valerie Martin & Emerson Ryder","episode_count":48,"summary":"Welcome to But For Real: the podcast where all your swirling thoughts about mental health, pop culture, and how to human are blended into one delicious variety show, co-hosted by therapists Valerie Martin (resident elder millennial ✌️) and Emerson Ryder (resident Gen Z 🫶).","last_synced_at":"2026-06-25T00:19:30.087755+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/but-for-real-7020454"},"episode":{"title":"Is Sex Addiction Really a Thing?","slug":"is-sex-addiction-really-a-thing","published_at":"2026-03-18T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/but-for-real-7020454/is-sex-addiction-really-a-thing","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/but-for-real-7020454","url":"https://but-for-real.captivate.fm/episode/is-sex-addiction-really-a-thing","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/39ded7c3-c934-48b2-a926-540f94a4dbde.mp3","summary":"We need to talk about sex addiction — because culturally, this phrase gets thrown around a lot . And depending on who you ask, it’s either a legitimate disorder… or a moral panic wrapped in clinical language. Either way, it is certainly true that some people need expert support to realign their sexual behavior with their values and intentions, and heal any wounds that may underlie sexual acting out. But is addiction the one best model for doing this work? In this episode of But For Real , we’re diving into the messy, controversial world of sex addiction, porn use, and what clinicians actually mean when they talk about “out of control sexual behavior.” Because here’s the truth: the phrase sex addict gets used everywhere — in couples fights, celebrity scandals, religious communities, and treatment centers. But clinically, the picture is way more nuanced. We’re asking: Is sex addiction actually recognized as a mental health disorder? Why does the DSM not include it? What’s the difference between a high libido, a porn habit, and something that’s truly out of control? And how much of this conversation is shaped by moral judgment, religion, and cultural discomfort around sex? Because here’s the thing: Not every high libido is pathology. Not every porn habit is addiction. And not every relationship betrayal means someone has a disease. But if your sexual behavior feels compulsive, secretive, or deeply distressing , that matters — and it deserves real support, not internet armchair diagnoses. In this episode, we break down the history of the sex addiction model , why many sex therapists challenge it, and what a more nuanced understanding of sexual behavior actually looks like. Plus, we explore the role of shame, porn culture, religion, attachment, and emotion regulation — beca…","meta_description":"We need to talk about sex addiction — because culturally, this phrase gets thrown around a lot . And depending on who you ask, it’s either a legitimate di…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2885,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/but-for-real-7020454/episodes/is-sex-addiction-really-a-thing/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/but-for-real-7020454/is-sex-addiction-really-a-thing.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}