{"podcast":{"title":"Brain First Parenting with Eileen Devine","slug":"brain-first-parenting-with-eileen-devine-7069827","podcast_index_feed_id":7069827,"rss_url":"https://podcasts.helloaudio.fm/podcast/6e87c6b7-d5a4-4c2d-82e6-8c1adf78c646/ZzWs5wxw7J","website_url":"https://www.eileendevine.com/","image_url":"https://d32kcwy5dai345.cloudfront.net/4cebd7d6-44d6-4332-812c-cf0dc01e5b61.jpg","author":"Eileen Devine","episode_count":45,"summary":"The Brain First Parenting podcast supports parents who are raising children, teens or young adults with brain-based differences and challenging behavioral symptoms. We are a safe space for parents who have historically felt like there isn't a place for them in the parenting advice world. At Brain First Parenting, we see each child as a unique individual with a unique brain, who deserves accommodations to thrive in a world that is frequently not set up for people with neurobehavioral challenges. We prioritize supporting the parents of these kids and teens so that they can, in turn, feel hope and confidence and joy in their parenting experience.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-15T20:17:39.315978+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/brain-first-parenting-with-eileen-devine-7069827"},"episode":{"title":"Ep. 41 | Rethinking \"I'm a Bad Parent.\"","slug":"ep-41-rethinking-i-m-a-bad-parent","published_at":"2026-05-04T09:00:05+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/brain-first-parenting-with-eileen-devine-7069827/ep-41-rethinking-i-m-a-bad-parent","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/brain-first-parenting-with-eileen-devine-7069827","url":"https://podcasts.helloaudio.fm/download/ZzWs5wxw7J/f28e5bd7-fffe-4b5e-b0d3-1099b85e7f28.mp3","audio_url":"https://podcasts.helloaudio.fm/download/ZzWs5wxw7J/f28e5bd7-fffe-4b5e-b0d3-1099b85e7f28.mp3","summary":"SUMMARY - In this episode, Eileen reflects on a common theme that comes up again and again in sessions with parents: the belief that “I’m failing” or “I should be better at this by now.” When you’re parenting a child with intense, relentless behaviors, it’s easy for self-blame to take hold, but these thoughts often point to something deeper. This episode explores what may be underneath this narrative and how to shift toward more compassionate, supportive self-reflection. TAKEAWAYS: Feeling like you’re “failing” is a common experience for parents of children with brain-based differences and intense behaviors These thoughts are often signals of deeper emotion, not objective truth Irritability and reactivity can be protective layers masking fear, grief, and resentment Fear may show up as worries about your child’s future or long-term functioning Grief can stem from the gap between what you expected parenting to be and your lived reality Resentment may be connected to the intensity of the demands and lack of adequate support Self-reflection is important, but it needs to be paired with self-compassion, not harsh criticism Your willingness to question yourself reflects how deeply you care, not that you are failing RESOURCES: Brain First Parenting Podcast Episode 22: The Unique Grief Affecting Parents of Neurodivergent Kids Brain First Parenting Podcast Episode 29: When You Feel Stretched Thin: Expanding Your Window of Tolerance Blog post: Three Things Your Irritability Might Be Masking ======================= If you appreciated this episode, and would like to receive a weekly note from Eileen about the Brain First Parenting journey every Monday, you can subscribe to her free newsletter HERE ! You can also check out all the FREE resources Eileen offers for parents, and learn…","meta_description":"SUMMARY - In this episode, Eileen reflects on a common theme that comes up again and again in sessions with parents: the belief that “I’m failing” or “I s…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":905,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/brain-first-parenting-with-eileen-devine-7069827/episodes/ep-41-rethinking-i-m-a-bad-parent/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/brain-first-parenting-with-eileen-devine-7069827/ep-41-rethinking-i-m-a-bad-parent.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}