{"podcast":{"title":"Better Than Perfect | A Relationship Podcast","slug":"better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853","podcast_index_feed_id":6707853,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/ee6d9fa4/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://betterthanperfectpod.com","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/39901617/39901617-1701548451238-2395ff055476.jpg","author":"Nicole and John Sonmez","episode_count":138,"summary":"Each week, we show how two imperfect people helping each other grow equals one better than perfect relationship.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-11T04:20:36.703224+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853"},"episode":{"title":"Green Flags, No Spark: Why \"Perfect\" Feels So Wrong [Ep 129]","slug":"green-flags-no-spark-why-perfect-feels-so-wrong-ep-129","published_at":"2026-05-15T15:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853/green-flags-no-spark-why-perfect-feels-so-wrong-ep-129","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betterthanperfect/episodes/Green-Flags--No-Spark-Why-Perfect-Feels-So-Wrong-Ep-129-e3jeqvv","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/ee6d9fa4/podcast/play/120072639/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-4-16%2F424263982-44100-2-c3764d78d8d2c.mp3","summary":"Green flags in dating don’t always mean a green light — and this episode gets into exactly why someone can check every box and still leave you cold. John and Nicole break down the viral Reddit question: should you stay with someone who’s a walking green flag even when the spark just isn’t there? In This Episode A green flag person who feels boring usually isn’t — if you’re calling them boring, you’re addicted to toxic highs and lows Men are responsible for creating the spark — confidence, game, and leading with intention The no-spark problem often comes down to caring too much what people think Chasing red flag partners traces back to childhood chaos feeling like home Confidence is the real game-changer — scarcity mindset turns green flag guys into people-pleasers nobody wants to marry Timestamps 0:00 — Men Want Peace, Women Want Emotion 2:06 — Should You Stay With Perfect On Paper? 5:05 — Trusting Intuition vs. Settling Down 9:44 — What The Spark Really Means 14:19 — Red Flags vs. Green Flags Over Time 17:04 — The Soulmate Debate 22:27 — Why Women Crave Emotional Range 27:01 — Chasing Red Flags From Childhood Wounds 33:58 — The Four Types Of Men Matrix 43:48 — Biology and Parental Investment 50:59 — Creating The Spark","meta_description":"Green flags in dating don’t always mean a green light — and this episode gets into exactly why someone can check every box and still leave you cold. John…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3387,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853/episodes/green-flags-no-spark-why-perfect-feels-so-wrong-ep-129/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853/green-flags-no-spark-why-perfect-feels-so-wrong-ep-129.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}