{"podcast":{"title":"Better Than Perfect | A Relationship Podcast","slug":"better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853","podcast_index_feed_id":6707853,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/ee6d9fa4/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://betterthanperfectpod.com","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/39901617/39901617-1701548451238-2395ff055476.jpg","author":"Nicole and John Sonmez","episode_count":138,"summary":"Each week, we show how two imperfect people helping each other grow equals one better than perfect relationship.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-11T04:20:36.703224+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853"},"episode":{"title":"Decentering Men: The Advice Women Get Wrong [Ep 134]","slug":"decentering-men-the-advice-women-get-wrong-ep-134","published_at":"2026-06-19T16:10:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853/decentering-men-the-advice-women-get-wrong-ep-134","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betterthanperfect/episodes/Decentering-Men-The-Advice-Women-Get-Wrong-Ep-134-e3kf67r","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/ee6d9fa4/podcast/play/121132731/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-7%2F425679715-44100-2-8e100ec59f939.mp3","summary":"Decentering Men: The Advice Women Get Wrong Decentering men can be useful advice when it really means stop chasing male validation and start building a life you actually like. But when it turns into hating men, shaming women for loving their partners, or pretending relationships should not matter, it becomes a problem. John and Echo break down the difference between centering yourself in a healthy way and using “decenter men” as a loaded, bitter slogan. They talk about dating anxiety, male validation, self-care, femininity, relationships, and why women should not feel embarrassed for loving or prioritizing a good man. In This Episode Decentering men often becomes vague advice instead of real guidance “Center yourself” is usually better advice than “decenter men” Chasing male validation can lead to desperation and bad dating choices Loving and prioritizing a good partner is not something to be ashamed of Hating men while wanting a relationship with one creates the wrong energy Self-care is not selfish when it helps you show up better for others Confidence and validation-seeking can look similar, but come from different places Say the actual problem instead of hiding behind trendy relationship language Timestamps 0:00 — Decentering Men And What It Really Means 3:32 — Healthy Self-Focus Versus Men-Bashing 6:05 — Better Advice Than A Loaded Buzzword 10:33 — Supporting Single Women Without Shaming Them 14:34 — Why Women Need To Center Themselves Too 19:24 — Self-Care, Sacrifice, And Giving From A Full Cup 23:05 — Neediness Versus Asking For What You Want 25:38 — Why Relationships Should Be Mutually Centered 29:03 — How Anti-Men Messaging Pushes Love Away 34:22 — Looking For Good Men Instead Of Bad Patterns 38:57 — Male Validation, Confidence, And Attraction 53:56 — Weekly C…","meta_description":"Decentering Men: The Advice Women Get Wrong Decentering men can be useful advice when it really means stop chasing male validation and start building a li…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3452,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853/episodes/decentering-men-the-advice-women-get-wrong-ep-134/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853/decentering-men-the-advice-women-get-wrong-ep-134.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}