{"podcast":{"title":"Betrayal Trauma Recovery","slug":"betrayal-trauma-recovery-945822","podcast_index_feed_id":945822,"rss_url":"https://feeds.podcastmirror.com/btr","website_url":"https://www.btr.org/","image_url":"https://feeds.podcastmirror.com/~images/2361271778004748.png","author":"Anne Blythe, M.Ed.","episode_count":215,"summary":"No woman wants to face the horror of her husband’s betrayal. Or have to recover from the emotional, physical & financial trauma and never-ending consequences. But these courageous women DID. And we’ll walk with you, so YOU can too. If you’re experiencing pain, chaos, and isolation due to your husband’s lying, anger, gaslighting, manipulation, infidelity, and/or emotional abuse… If he’s undermined you and condemned you as an angry, codependent, controlling gold-digger… If you think your husband might be an addict or narcissist. Or even if he’s “just” a jerk… If your husband (or ex) is miserable to be around, this podcast is for YOU.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-10T04:20:01.940148+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/betrayal-trauma-recovery-945822"},"episode":{"title":"3 Hidden Ways Narcissists Groom Victims in Marriage","slug":"3-hidden-ways-narcissists-groom-victims-in-marriage","published_at":"2026-03-10T11:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/betrayal-trauma-recovery-945822/3-hidden-ways-narcissists-groom-victims-in-marriage","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/betrayal-trauma-recovery-945822","url":"https://www.btr.org/narcissists-groom-victims/","audio_url":"https://media.blubrry.com/betrayal_trauma/media.blubrry.com/betrayal_trauma/ins.blubrry.com/betrayal_trauma/3_Hidden_Ways_Narcissists_Groom_Victims.mp3","summary":"Have you noticed that your husband now criticizes the very traits he once loved? Narcissists groom victims by presenting themselves as safe, loving, and trustworthy at first, to gain trust and lower a woman’s defenses before causing harm. When women understand three common ways narcissists groom victims, they can begin to see what’s really happening. Grooming often works quietly. Emotional abusers use a cycle of praise, pity, and confusion to keep women questioning themselves instead of questioning his behavior. This is why grooming feels good at first, because the intent stays hidden until the damage is already underway. To know if it’s grooming, you’ll also need to know if he’s using any one of these 19 different emotional abuse tactics. Take our free emotional abuse quiz to find out. 1. Narcissists Groom Victims With Compliments He’ll Later Use To Attack You Narcissists groom victims with compliments that feel personal and sincere. Early on, they pay close attention to what matters to you, what you feel good about, and what you’re insecure about. Later, they use those same things to criticize, confuse, or control you. This is why many women don’t see red flags before a relationship or marriage begins. At first, it feels like he truly sees you and appreciates who you are. Over time, you realize that what felt like love and admiration was actually preparation. 2.Narcissists Groom With DARVO DARVO means Deny, Attack, and then Reverse the Victim and Offender roll. This is when someone who is truly hurting you claims that you are hurting them. 3. Narcissists Groom Victims With Sob Stories Playing the victim is a common tactic narcissists groom victims with. The truth is that many, many people have had traumatic childhoods and it’s not…","meta_description":"Have you noticed that your husband now criticizes the very traits he once loved? Narcissists groom victims by presenting themselves as safe, loving, and t…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2075,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/betrayal-trauma-recovery-945822/episodes/3-hidden-ways-narcissists-groom-victims-in-marriage/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/betrayal-trauma-recovery-945822/3-hidden-ways-narcissists-groom-victims-in-marriage.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}