{"podcast":{"title":"Below The Circle with Dr. Phyllis","slug":"below-the-circle-6619723","podcast_index_feed_id":6619723,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/below-the-circle/","website_url":"https://drphyllishayesreams.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/4156912f-eb24-48c6-a2c8-db1346efc8a0/July-2026-Podcast-Cover.jpg","author":"Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams","episode_count":152,"summary":"Have you built a life that looks full—but no longer feels like your own? You love God. You care deeply for others. You carry responsibility well. From the outside, your life may look successful, meaningful, even inspiring. But somewhere along the way, you became disconnected from yourself. You keep going because that's what you've always done. You show up. You serve. You achieve. You hold everything together. Yet beneath the full calendar and endless responsibilities is a quiet question you can't ignore: Is this really the life God created me to live? Below the Circle is the podcast for women who are ready to stop circling on autopilot and start landing—creating intentional Landing Moments™ that reconnect them to God, themselves, and their lives. I'm Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams—physician, ordained minister, Life Landing Coach, and creator of the Landing Plan™. After years of striving, performing, and living disconnected from my own life, I discovered that the answer wasn't doing more. It was learning to land. Each episode offers practical wisdom, biblical encouragement, honest conversations, and simple practices to help you recognize when you've drifted into autopilot and gently retur…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-30T00:17:31.951986+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/below-the-circle-6619723"},"episode":{"title":"150. Why Doing Less Feels Like Letting People Down","slug":"150-why-doing-less-feels-like-letting-people-down","published_at":"2026-07-29T12:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/below-the-circle-6619723/150-why-doing-less-feels-like-letting-people-down","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/below-the-circle-6619723","url":"https://drphyllishayesreams.com","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/05692a82-f2bd-4adf-bdb9-3909a8af0fb1.mp3","summary":"You paused. You gave yourself a moment before you answered. And then — almost immediately — guilt showed up like you'd done something wrong. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams sits with the feeling that shows up after the pause — the guilt that comes the second you try to choose yourself. She names it plainly, teaches the difference between two kinds of guilt, and gives you one question you can use the next time you're in the middle of the spiral. This is not a conversation about doing less. It's a conversation about learning to read what the guilt is actually telling you — and choosing your way through it instead of obeying it. If you've ever paused, tried to choose differently, and immediately felt like you did something wrong — this episode was made for you. This week’s reflection: When guilt shows up after you choose yourself, pause and ask: “Did I do something wrong, or did I simply do something different?” In this episode: (0:00) Investing in everyone except yourself (2:43) Choosing versus reacting (4:44) Making a real inner investment (6:22) The two types of guilt (10:19) Wrongdoing versus growth (11:20) Dr. Phyllis shares her personal story (15:16) Why the “right season” may never come (17:06) Faith, responsibility, and releasing others’ burdens (19:08) The two-question guilt check-in (21:03) Becoming faithful to your own soul (23:26) “What’s Yours to Carry and What Isn’t” resource Your next step is already waiting: a guide called What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t , made to walk you through your own plate and help you start sorting this is mine from this was never mine. Go get it at thebelowthecircle.com . Nothing has been wasted. It’s not too late to land — whole, aligned, free. ——— Get your guide → thebelowthecircle.com Below the Circle with Dr. Ph…","meta_description":"You paused. You gave yourself a moment before you answered. And then — almost immediately — guilt showed up like you'd done something wrong. In this episo…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1454,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/below-the-circle-6619723/episodes/150-why-doing-less-feels-like-letting-people-down/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/below-the-circle-6619723/150-why-doing-less-feels-like-letting-people-down.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}