{"podcast":{"title":"Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson","slug":"being-well-with-forrest-hanson-and-dr-rick-hanson-218807","podcast_index_feed_id":218807,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/BEING3442328255","website_url":"https://rickhanson.com/being-well-podcast/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/29c0137e-b6fb-11ee-8b98-972782997553/image/367a270febbb547b30aa6399eb94f34b.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"Being Well","episode_count":472,"summary":"Forrest Hanson is joined by clinical psychologist (and his dad) Dr. Rick Hanson and a world-class group of experts to explore the practical science of lasting well-being. Conversations focus on the key insights from psychology, science, and contemplative practice that you need to build reliable inner strengths, overcome your challenges, and get the most out of life. New episodes every Monday.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/being-well-with-forrest-hanson-and-dr-rick-hanson-218807"},"episode":{"title":"Fixing vs. Feeling: How to Get on the Same Team with Elizabeth Ferreira","slug":"fixing-vs-feeling-how-to-get-on-the-same-team-with-elizabeth-ferreira","published_at":"2026-02-02T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/being-well-with-forrest-hanson-and-dr-rick-hanson-218807/fixing-vs-feeling-how-to-get-on-the-same-team-with-elizabeth-ferreira","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/being-well-with-forrest-hanson-and-dr-rick-hanson-218807","url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/211/traffic.megaphone.fm/BEING5939051084.mp3?updated=1769986558","audio_url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/211/traffic.megaphone.fm/BEING5939051084.mp3?updated=1769986558","summary":"Forrest and somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira explore a common source of relationship conflict: the mismatch between “fixing” (moving quickly into problem-solving) and “feeling” (wanting attunement and empathy before solutions). They talk about where these patterns come from, how each functions as a psychological defense, and the role of gender socialization, identity, and adaptation. The conversation also touches on trauma, nervous-system activation, and why building safety usually comes before real change. Key Topics: 0:00: Intro 3:40: “Fixing” vs. “feeling,” and why both can be protective strategies. 6:03: Socialization and learned coping styles. 9:12: Why conflict happens 14:28: Attunement, then problem-solving. 18:35: How discomfort with emotion shapes communication 30:48: What change looks like in practice. 33:49: Trauma and nervous-system activation 42:32: Helping logical-first people open up emotionally. 46:49: “Do you want empathy or solutions?” 49:03: Teaser about Complex PTSD in relationships. 52:30: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Grab Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code BEINGWELL at huel.com/beingwell. New customers only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show! Over 100,000 people have given their Caraway Kitchen products a 5 star rating, and Caraway’s cookware set is a favorite for a reason. Visit Carawayhome.com/BEINGWELL or use code BEINGWELL at checkout. Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices","meta_description":"Forrest and somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira explore a common source of relationship conflict: the mismatch between “fixing” (moving quickly into prob…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3641,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/being-well-with-forrest-hanson-and-dr-rick-hanson-218807/episodes/fixing-vs-feeling-how-to-get-on-the-same-team-with-elizabeth-ferreira/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/being-well-with-forrest-hanson-and-dr-rick-hanson-218807/fixing-vs-feeling-how-to-get-on-the-same-team-with-elizabeth-ferreira.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}