{"podcast":{"title":"Beat Your Genes Podcast","slug":"beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","podcast_index_feed_id":601101,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/462585/rss","website_url":"https://beatyourgenes.org/","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/6/8/3/c/683cf337d8321d22bafc7308ab683e82/300DPI_JPG.jpg","author":"Nathan Gershfeld","episode_count":402,"summary":"Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T22:20:18.136355+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101"},"episode":{"title":"386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight","slug":"386-how-to-handle-bad-advice-without-a-fight","published_at":"2026-07-10T12:16:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/386-how-to-handle-bad-advice-without-a-fight","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","url":"https://eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d.libsyn.com/386-how-to-handle-bad-advice-without-a-fight","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d/BYG_386_Audio.mp3?dest-id=3904317","summary":"What do you say when a friend or family member recommends horse-assisted coaching, family constellations therapy, or the latest protein fix for your problems? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle explains why arguing back is like trying to pee up Niagara Falls, and what to do instead. Dr. Lisle breaks down the hidden motivations behind unsolicited advice, why every one of these exchanges is really a status contest, and how his Seems Strategy lets you exit the conflict without surrendering your integrity. He also covers why psychodynamic therapy is the modern equivalent of bleeding patients, the management principle that ends recurring arguments, the story of an executive who lost a major VP job by correcting a CEO, and David Burns' anti-heckler technique for defusing public status challenges. 0:00 The question: how do you respond to non-evidence-based advice? 1:08 Why advice only comes up in conversations that matter 2:29 Why you love music: the evolutionary tangent 4:57 The two real motivations behind every piece of advice 6:47 Where the culture's canned solutions come from (protein, the four food groups) 9:09 The more likely motive: esteem pressure 11:03 The question to ask before the advice ever arrives 14:14 The Seems Strategy explained 17:19 Why educating people is like trying to pee up Niagara Falls 18:30 Can getting stoned produce real insight? 20:02 Nathan executes the Seems Strategy against a real aggressor 23:44 Horse therapy, EMDR, and the bleeding-patients problem in psychology 29:19 When to drop the Seems Strategy and tell the truth 30:46 Nothing as permanent as the recurrent temporary 34:42 How one sentence cost an executive a VP job 39:06 Is there any value in being confrontational? 42:03 The anti-heckler technique that saves your status and theirs 4…","meta_description":"What do you say when a friend or family member recommends horse-assisted coaching, family constellations therapy, or the latest protein fix for your probl…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2745,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/episodes/386-how-to-handle-bad-advice-without-a-fight/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/386-how-to-handle-bad-advice-without-a-fight.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}