{"podcast":{"title":"Beat Your Genes Podcast","slug":"beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","podcast_index_feed_id":601101,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/462585/rss","website_url":"https://beatyourgenes.org/","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/6/8/3/c/683cf337d8321d22bafc7308ab683e82/300DPI_JPG.jpg","author":"Nathan Gershfeld","episode_count":402,"summary":"Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T22:20:18.136355+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101"},"episode":{"title":"385: It's Not the Men. It's Who You Keep Choosing.","slug":"385-it-s-not-the-men-it-s-who-you-keep-choosing","published_at":"2026-06-26T15:25:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/385-it-s-not-the-men-it-s-who-you-keep-choosing","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","url":"https://eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d.libsyn.com/e385-its-not-the-men-its-who-you-keep-choosing","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d/385_Audio.mp3?dest-id=3904317","summary":"A listener who knows evolutionary psychology well asks Dr. Doug Lisle a painful question. If men seem satisfied once they have food and sex, and never care about her inner life, is she fighting a losing battle against biology? His answer flips it. The problem was never the men. It was who she kept choosing. In this episode of the Beat Your Genes Podcast, evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle and co-host Nathan Gershfeld work through two questions. In the first, Dr. Lisle uses David Buss research and his own decades of clinical conversations to explain why men will trade almost anything to get looks, why kindness outranks intelligence as the first trait both sexes seek, and why a woman who keeps ending up with men who are only three octaves deep is looking at her own evolutionary design, not a shortage of deep men. He lays out the piano octaves metaphor, the self awareness test sitting underneath the complaint, and what it would actually take to choose differently from the start. In the second question starting at 43:31, a 63 year old hyper conscientious vegan athlete is furious that her overweight friends are now thinner than her after six months on GLP-1 drugs. Dr. Lisle treats this as a problem of competitive status and esteem, not vanity, and walks through why losing a long held advantage in sexual attractiveness can land like an earthquake. He also shares his rule of thumb on drug side effects and why the wrong six friends may be the real source of the pain. Beat Your Genes is co-hosted by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Dr. Nathan Gershfeld, DC. New episodes every other week. Submit your question for Dr. Lisle at beatyourgenes.org and it may be answered on a future episode. Subscribe: youtube.com/@BeatYourGenes beatyourgenes.org Apple Podcasts…","meta_description":"A listener who knows evolutionary psychology well asks Dr. Doug Lisle a painful question. If men seem satisfied once they have food and sex, and never car…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4354,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/episodes/385-it-s-not-the-men-it-s-who-you-keep-choosing/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/385-it-s-not-the-men-it-s-who-you-keep-choosing.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}