{"podcast":{"title":"Beat Your Genes Podcast","slug":"beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","podcast_index_feed_id":601101,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/462585/rss","website_url":"https://beatyourgenes.org/","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/6/8/3/c/683cf337d8321d22bafc7308ab683e82/300DPI_JPG.jpg","author":"Nathan Gershfeld","episode_count":402,"summary":"Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T22:20:18.136355+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101"},"episode":{"title":"384: What Looks Like a Flaw Is Actually a Strategy","slug":"384-what-looks-like-a-flaw-is-actually-a-strategy","published_at":"2026-06-10T15:08:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/384-what-looks-like-a-flaw-is-actually-a-strategy","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","url":"https://eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d.libsyn.com/384-what-looks-like-a-flaw-is-actually-a-strategy","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d/BYG_Audio_384.mp3?dest-id=3904317","summary":"Why do some people freeze when they try to speak up in a group, while others jump in without a second thought? Dr. Doug Lisle says it is not shyness or a confidence problem you can train away. It is your nervous system running a cost benefit analysis on where you sit in a dominance hierarchy. In this episode of the Beat Your Genes Podcast, co-hosts Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, DC take on two listener questions. The first comes from someone who keeps saying the wrong thing or becoming the butt of the joke whenever they try to enter a conversation. Dr. Lisle explains why 1970s assertiveness training mostly fails, why personality is genetic rather than conditioned, and the one mechanical strategy that actually helps: asking questions instead of making statements. The second question is about a relative in her late 20s who will not stop talking about her exes. Dr. Lisle reframes the rumination as something the listener never suspected. It is an advertisement of mate worthiness and a status signal driven by the pressure of the mating clock, not a sign she needs to move on. Along the way Dr. Lisle covers the difference between innate personality and learning theory, why a resource sits behind every feeling, the paralinguistics of whining, and the vast variance in human personality that most psychology refuses to see. Beat Your Genes is co-hosted by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Dr. Nathan Gershfeld, DC. New episodes every other week. Submit your question for Dr. Lisle at beatyourgenes.org and it may be answered on a future episode. Subscribe: youtube.com/@BeatYourGenes beatyourgenes.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast/id1137772216 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6TsmRx1vmGL88ORlcXd3PV Doug…","meta_description":"Why do some people freeze when they try to speak up in a group, while others jump in without a second thought? Dr. Doug Lisle says it is not shyness or a…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3959,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/episodes/384-what-looks-like-a-flaw-is-actually-a-strategy/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/384-what-looks-like-a-flaw-is-actually-a-strategy.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}