{"podcast":{"title":"Beat Your Genes Podcast","slug":"beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","podcast_index_feed_id":601101,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/462585/rss","website_url":"https://beatyourgenes.org/","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/6/8/3/c/683cf337d8321d22bafc7308ab683e82/300DPI_JPG.jpg","author":"Nathan Gershfeld","episode_count":402,"summary":"Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T22:20:18.136355+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101"},"episode":{"title":"379: Why Your Partner Stopped Trying (It's Not What You Think)","slug":"379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-it-s-not-what-you-think","published_at":"2026-04-02T03:44:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-it-s-not-what-you-think","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","url":"https://eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d.libsyn.com/379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-its-not-what-you-think","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d/BYG_379_Audio.mp3?dest-id=3904317","summary":"Most people assume that whoever cares less in a relationship holds the power. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle explains why that framing gets it completely backwards. What people call the \"care gap\" isn't a power move at all. It's a signal about what's actually happening in the competitive marketplace both partners are operating in. Whether you're feeling the gap or causing it, the real question isn't who cares more. It's why. As Dr. Lisle explains, what's actually driving that dynamic, and what to do about it, depends on a highly individual matrix of mate value, aging, personality, and life circumstances. In this episode: · 0:00 — Announcement: Beat Your Genes is returning to YouTube. Subscribe at @BeatYourGenes · 1:52 — The care gap question: why does he seem to stop trying after the relationship stabilizes? · 12:30 — How mate value shifts differently for men and women after 40, and why evolution designed it that way · 24:15 — The love instinct, the magic 10%, and why Match.com didn't solve loneliness · 35:40 — What \"caring less\" actually signals, and what to do if you're on the losing end of the trade · 46:00 — The chiseling chip: the one vicious cycle Dr. Lisle says can sometimes be broken Key question covered: Is the care gap in long-term relationships inevitable, or is there something you can actually do about it? Beat Your Genes is co-hosted by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Dr. Nathan Gershfeld, DC. New episodes every other week. 🎥 YouTube: youtube.com/@BeatYourGenes 🔗 beatyourgenes.org 📩 Doug Lisle: esteemdynamics.com 📩 Nathan Gershfeld: fastingescape.com 𝕏 @BeatYourGenes Intro & outro: City of Happy Ones. Ferenc Hegedus. Licensed for use. © Beat Your Genes Podcast","meta_description":"Most people assume that whoever cares less in a relationship holds the power. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle explains why that framing gets it completely…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3649,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/episodes/379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-it-s-not-what-you-think/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-it-s-not-what-you-think.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}