{"podcast":{"title":"Beat Your Genes Podcast","slug":"beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","podcast_index_feed_id":601101,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/462585/rss","website_url":"https://beatyourgenes.org/","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/6/8/3/c/683cf337d8321d22bafc7308ab683e82/300DPI_JPG.jpg","author":"Nathan Gershfeld","episode_count":402,"summary":"Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T22:20:18.136355+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101"},"episode":{"title":"373: I was in a Traumatic Relationship – How to Recover?","slug":"373-i-was-in-a-traumatic-relationship-how-to-recover","published_at":"2026-01-20T20:18:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/373-i-was-in-a-traumatic-relationship-how-to-recover","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","url":"https://eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d.libsyn.com/373-i-was-in-a-traumatic-relationship-how-to-recover","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d/BYG_373_audio.mp3?dest-id=3904317","summary":"Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 02:07 The Year of Dr. Lisle's Book 3:13 New Personality Trait? Tendency for Victimhood https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2020.110134 30:30 Disagreeable with a few moving parts 41:28 Q1: Past traumatic relationship – how to start dating again? 1:05:20 Final thoughts Q1: How do I regain my self confidence after narcissistic abuse? I had an extremely emotionally abusive partner who would constantly call me fat even though I wasn't (I was 5'4 120 pounds). He would force me to weigh myself before every time we had sex and if I was above a certain weight, he would insult me and refuse sex. I developed an eating disorder because of this and got down to 90 pounds. Even when I was pregnant with our baby, he constantly called me a disgusting fat cow even though it was his child I was carrying. Now that I'm free of him I have regained some weight, and am a healthier 110 pounds. The problem is, I'm so traumatized by men and relationships that I am afraid to date. My confidence is lower than it ever was, even though, ironically I used to model when I was younger and have always been told I was beautiful, he ruined that. I'm 40 years old and I don't want to be single forever. What should I do? X: @BeatYourGenes Web: www.beatyourgenes.org Doug Lisle, PhD www.esteemdynamics.com Nathan Gershfeld, DC www.fastingescape.com Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones • Ferenc Hegedus Licensed for use Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast","meta_description":"Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 02:07 The Year of Dr. Li…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3969,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/episodes/373-i-was-in-a-traumatic-relationship-how-to-recover/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/373-i-was-in-a-traumatic-relationship-how-to-recover.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}