{"podcast":{"title":"Beat Your Genes Podcast","slug":"beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","podcast_index_feed_id":601101,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/462585/rss","website_url":"https://beatyourgenes.org/","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/6/8/3/c/683cf337d8321d22bafc7308ab683e82/300DPI_JPG.jpg","author":"Nathan Gershfeld","episode_count":402,"summary":"Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T22:20:18.136355+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101"},"episode":{"title":"370: Chasing vs. Coasting: Why the Dynamics Change for Both Sexes","slug":"370-chasing-vs-coasting-why-the-dynamics-change-for-both-sexes","published_at":"2025-11-19T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/370-chasing-vs-coasting-why-the-dynamics-change-for-both-sexes","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101","url":"https://eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d.libsyn.com/370-chasing-vs-coasting-why-the-dynamics-change-for-both-sexes","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/eac5122b-64de-4568-a1e6-e7d246a15c9d/BYG_370_audio.mp3?dest-id=3904317","summary":"Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:51 Q1: Are men destined to hold more power in relationships due to women being the higher investment party? 09:23 What are relationships? 18:08 Are women the only ones who need affirmation & esteem signals? 34:30 What do we need in a relationship? 46:32 The only hope for a dying relationship Q1: Are men destined to hold more power in relationships, aka in a position of power, because women are always the higher investment party? In my experience with a few long-term relationships, the men stopped caring for and investing in my emotional well-being after the initial phase of chasing and courting. They're nice, hardworking, and sincere, but I no longer receive the esteem signals and affirmation that women often need, especially after having kids, since they know I'm not going anywhere. Am I asking for too much? Should I just be happy knowing he's a good provider of resources? X: @BeatYourGenes Web: www.beatyourgenes.org Doug Lisle, PhD www.esteemdynamics.com Nathan Gershfeld, DC www.fastingescape.com Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones • Ferenc Hegedus Licensed for use Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast","meta_description":"Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:51 Q1: Are men destin…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3458,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/episodes/370-chasing-vs-coasting-why-the-dynamics-change-for-both-sexes/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/beat-your-genes-podcast-601101/370-chasing-vs-coasting-why-the-dynamics-change-for-both-sexes.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}