{"podcast":{"title":"Based Camp | Simone & Malcolm Collins","slug":"based-camp-simone-malcolm-collins-6378161","podcast_index_feed_id":6378161,"rss_url":"https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/1643534/s/64409.rss","website_url":"https://basedcamppodcast.substack.com/s/based-camp-simone-and-malcolm","image_url":"https://substackcdn.com/feed/podcast/1643534/s/64409/a478854e7b409f02072d443b587bdd1d.jpg","author":"Based Camp | Simone & Malcolm Collins","episode_count":790,"summary":"We will try to have in depth conversations about intellectually engaging topics in a way that does not fall into simple left right pandering (and thus is both based and camp). This is the podcast by the creators of the Pragmatist Guide series and the Pronatalist movement, Simone Collins and Malcolm Collins.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/based-camp-simone-malcolm-collins-6378161"},"episode":{"title":"NY Mag Promotes Regretting Having Kids (Simone Thinks It’s A Good Idea)","slug":"nyt-promotes-regretting-having-kids-simone-thinks-it-s-a-good-idea","published_at":"2026-05-19T11:52:33+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/based-camp-simone-malcolm-collins-6378161/nyt-promotes-regretting-having-kids-simone-thinks-it-s-a-good-idea","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/based-camp-simone-malcolm-collins-6378161","url":"https://basedcamppodcast.substack.com/p/nyt-promotes-regretting-having-kids","audio_url":"https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/198391368/d8feefab7ab613995f6c66bcc1c5cd9e.mp3","summary":"Today on Based Camp, we go over the accounts of women who reportedly regret having kids, as covered by New York Magazine , and discuss why they’re so miserable. Among other things, we explore: * How the hardest phase is often the early years, especially infancy and toddlerhood, and that regret can be heavily shaped by sleep deprivation, pain, and the shock of being the default caregiver * How the same events can feel unbearable or manageable depending on whether a person frames them negatively or as part of a meaningful life project * The utility of thinking through failure modes in advance, building contingency plans, and explicitly discussing logistics before having children rather than relying on vague social assumptions * How if someone dislikes themselves or their partner, that unhappiness often gets magnified through children because kids reflect both parents * How online communities like “regretful parents” can reinforce misery by rewarding negative storytelling, though they acknowledge that some parents are genuinely unsupported and hurting Ultimately, parent regret is often driven less by children themselves and more by a mix of poor preparation, weak reasons for having kids, lack of support, bad partner fit, and untreated personal issues like depression, anxiety, ADHD, or body image problems. Many of these risks can be headed off by brutally honest parenting discussions, early planning, and choosing parenthood deliberately rather than as a default life stage Episode Notes * A lot of conservative-leaning influencers are talking about an article in the New York Times, part of The Cut’s “Oh, Baby” series * Broadly speaking, they’re trashing NY Mag for discouraging motherhood and/or trashing the mothers for various reasons * Though some, like Brett Cooper, have m…","meta_description":"Today on Based Camp, we go over the accounts of women who reportedly regret having kids, as covered by New York Magazine , and discuss why they’re so mise…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2851,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/based-camp-simone-malcolm-collins-6378161/episodes/nyt-promotes-regretting-having-kids-simone-thinks-it-s-a-good-idea/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/based-camp-simone-malcolm-collins-6378161/nyt-promotes-regretting-having-kids-simone-thinks-it-s-a-good-idea.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}