{"podcast":{"title":"Ask the Unfaithful","slug":"ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","podcast_index_feed_id":7030282,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/548157/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/548157","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/b/7/b/a/b7ba3da7b2c2506527a2322813b393ee/AskTheUnfaithful2.jpg","author":"James & Sam","episode_count":73,"summary":"The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners. Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam: Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade. Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 68: 15 LANGUAGE SHIFTS THE UNFAITHFUL CAN USE TO REBUILD TRUST AFTER BETRAYAL","slug":"episode-68-15-language-shifts-the-unfaithful-can-use-to-rebuild-trust-after-betrayal","published_at":"2026-05-09T01:17:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-68-15-language-shifts-the-unfaithful-can-use-to-rebuild-trust-after-betrayal","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","url":"https://8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f.libsyn.com/episode-68-15-language-shifts-the-unfaithful-can-use-to-rebuild-trust-after-betrayal","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f/E68_-15_LANGUAGE_SHIFTS_THE_UNFAITHFUL_CAN_USE_TO_REBUILD_TRUST_AFTER_BETRAYAL.mp3?dest-id=4728192","summary":"If you're trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, your words matter more than you think as James and Sam discussed in the previous episode of Ask The Unfaithful. In this episode, Sam and James break down 15 critical language shifts that move the conversation from harmful words that destroy trust to healing phrases that begin to rebuild it. This is not about scripts or saying the \"right thing.\" It's about becoming someone who communicates with ownership, empathy, and emotional presence. After infidelity, betrayed partners aren't just listening to what you say—they're watching for vital change in you. This episode gives you clear, direct examples of: • Harmful phrases that shut down healing (and why they cause more damage) • Healing language that builds safety, trust, and connection • How defensiveness, minimization, and shame show up in communication • What to say when your partner is triggered, angry, or asking the questions repeatedly • How to respond without shutting down, blaming, or avoiding • Real-time tools to catch yourself before you say something harmful • The neuroscience of how healing language actually rewires your brain You'll also learn: • The difference between protecting yourself vs. rebuilding your relationship • How to stay present in hard conversations instead of escaping them • How to repair communication mistakes in real time Core Truth: Every harmful statement protects you. Every healing statement chooses your partner—and the relationship—over your discomfort. This episode is for you if: • You're the unfaithful partner trying to rebuild trust • You struggle with defensiveness, shame, or shutting down • You don't know what to say during hard conversations • You want to stop making things worse and start making real repair 🔑 Key Topics: healing comm…","meta_description":"If you're trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, your words matter more than you think as James and Sam discussed in the previous episode of Ask The Unfa…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2305,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episodes/episode-68-15-language-shifts-the-unfaithful-can-use-to-rebuild-trust-after-betrayal/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-68-15-language-shifts-the-unfaithful-can-use-to-rebuild-trust-after-betrayal.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}