{"podcast":{"title":"Ask the Unfaithful","slug":"ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","podcast_index_feed_id":7030282,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/548157/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/548157","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/b/7/b/a/b7ba3da7b2c2506527a2322813b393ee/AskTheUnfaithful2.jpg","author":"James & Sam","episode_count":73,"summary":"The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners. Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam: Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade. Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 65: THIS \"RECOVERY BEHAVIOR\" IS JUST ANOTHER FORM OF BETRAYAL","slug":"episode-65-this-recovery-behavior-is-just-another-form-of-betrayal","published_at":"2026-03-26T07:18:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-65-this-recovery-behavior-is-just-another-form-of-betrayal","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","url":"https://8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f.libsyn.com/episode-65-this-recovery-behavior-is-just-another-form-of-betrayal","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f/E65_THIS__RECOVERY_BEHAVIOR__IS_JUST_ANOTHER_FORM_OF_BETRAYAL_esd7lWF2pfI.mp3?dest-id=4728192","summary":"In this powerful episode of Ask The Unfaithful, we break down a hidden but deeply damaging pattern in relationships affected by infidelity: self-erasure - when the unfaithful partner suppresses their voice, identity, and emotions in the name of shame, guilt, or \"doing the right thing.\" While it may look like humility or accountability, self-erasure often creates emotional abandonment, disconnection, and stalled recovery. In this episode, we cover: • What self-erasure really is (and why it's NOT humility) • Why unfaithful partners silence themselves after betrayal • How shame-driven withdrawal harms the betrayed partner • Why self-erasure feels like a second betrayal to the betrayed • How self-erasure blocks intimacy and emotional repair • What both partners can do to rebuild real emotional safety If you're an unfaithful partner, this episode will challenge you to step out of shame and into emotional presence and courage. If you're a betrayed partner, this will help you understand why silence, withdrawal, or \"checking the boxes\" feels so painful—and why it's not enough. 👉 Recovery is not about disappearing. 👉 It's about showing up. Key Takeaway: Self-erasure is not humility—it's self-abandonment disguised as care for the betrayed. And it keeps both partners stuck in disconnection. 💬 Comment below: How does this episode resonate with you? 📬 Connect With Us: Have a question or a topic you want us to address? Email: AskTheUnfaithful@gmail.com Need help healing? Visit HopeForUs.com Work with James & Sharon: Info@HopeForUs.com Work with Sam: SamsHealingPodcast@gmail.com 👉 If this episode resonates with you, please like, share, and subscribe for more conversations on betrayal trauma, affair recovery, and building trust again. ------ Our Website: www.AskTheUnfaithful.com Conta…","meta_description":"In this powerful episode of Ask The Unfaithful, we break down a hidden but deeply damaging pattern in relationships affected by infidelity: self-erasure -…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1812,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episodes/episode-65-this-recovery-behavior-is-just-another-form-of-betrayal/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-65-this-recovery-behavior-is-just-another-form-of-betrayal.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}