{"podcast":{"title":"Ask the Unfaithful","slug":"ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","podcast_index_feed_id":7030282,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/548157/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/548157","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/b/7/b/a/b7ba3da7b2c2506527a2322813b393ee/AskTheUnfaithful2.jpg","author":"James & Sam","episode_count":73,"summary":"The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners. Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam: Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade. Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 64: UNDERSTANDING BETRAYAL: DO MEN AND WOMEN CHEAT FOR DIFFERENT REASONS?","slug":"episode-64-understanding-betrayal-do-men-and-women-cheat-for-different-reasons","published_at":"2026-03-12T11:40:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-64-understanding-betrayal-do-men-and-women-cheat-for-different-reasons","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","url":"https://8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f.libsyn.com/episode-64-understanding-betrayal-do-men-and-women-cheat-for-different-reasons","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f/E64_UNDERSTANDING_BETRAYAL__DO_MEN_AND_WOMEN_CHEAT_FOR_DIFFERENT_REASONS__aDvdIy3DB4w.mp3?dest-id=4728192","summary":"In this powerful episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James Annear and Sam explore the key psychological, developmental, and behavioral differences between male and female problematic sexual behaviors—including infidelity, emotional affairs, compulsive sexual behavior, and love addiction. While there is significant overlap between genders, research and clinical experience show important differences in motivations, attachment patterns, shame responses, and recovery pathways. Understanding these differences can help betrayed partners make sense of the betrayal and help unfaithful partners pursue targeted recovery work that actually leads to healing. In this episode, we break down: • The core drivers of infidelity in men vs. women • How attachment styles influence acting out behaviors • Why males' infidelity is often compartmentalized • Why females' affairs are often emotionally entangled • The role of childhood trauma, unmet needs, and shame cycles • How men and women experience and express shame differently • The devastating trauma and humiliation experienced by betrayed partners • What unfaithful partners must do to repair trust and rebuild safety Most importantly, we discuss what real recovery looks like—for both unfaithful partners and betrayed partners. This episode is especially helpful for: • Betrayed partners trying to understand why the betrayal happened • Unfaithful partners committed to real recovery and change • Couples navigating infidelity recovery and rebuilding trust • Therapists working with betrayal trauma and compulsive sexual behavior 💬 Comment below: How does this episode resonate with you? 📬 Connect With Us: Have a question or a topic you want us to address? Email: AskTheUnfaithful@gmail.com Need help healing? Visit HopeForUs.com Work with James & Sharon:…","meta_description":"In this powerful episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James Annear and Sam explore the key psychological, developmental, and behavioral differences between male…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2145,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episodes/episode-64-understanding-betrayal-do-men-and-women-cheat-for-different-reasons/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-64-understanding-betrayal-do-men-and-women-cheat-for-different-reasons.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}