{"podcast":{"title":"Ask the Unfaithful","slug":"ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","podcast_index_feed_id":7030282,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/548157/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/548157","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/b/7/b/a/b7ba3da7b2c2506527a2322813b393ee/AskTheUnfaithful2.jpg","author":"James & Sam","episode_count":73,"summary":"The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners. Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam: Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade. Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 59: 7 WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL MISHANDLE THE BETRAYED'S DISENFRANCHISED GRIEF","slug":"episode-59-7-ways-the-unfaithful-mishandle-the-betrayed-s-disenfranchised-grief","published_at":"2025-12-18T07:27:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-59-7-ways-the-unfaithful-mishandle-the-betrayed-s-disenfranchised-grief","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","url":"https://8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f.libsyn.com/episode-59-7-ways-the-unfaithful-mishandle-the-betrayeds-disenfranchised-grief","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f/E59_-_7_WAYS_THE_UNFAITHFUL_MISHANDLE_THE_BETRAYEDS_DISENFRANCHISED_GRIEF_P_11ELq6uCM.mp3?dest-id=4728192","summary":"In this dynamic episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Sam and James unpack disenfranchised grief—the deep, invisible grief the betrayed partner experiences after infidelity. This is grief with no rituals, no casseroles, no support, and no social permission to hurt. Instead, betrayed partners often suffer in silence while navigating shame, fear, shattered identity, and the loss of safety, trust, and future dreams. James and Sam break down why this grief is misunderstood, how it shows up in emotional waves, cognitive looping, hypervigilance, withdrawal, and overwhelming internal conflict, and detail seven ways unfaithful partners often make the grief worse. Most importantly, they teach what the unfaithful can do to help heal this grief. This episode is a roadmap for unfaithful partners who truly want to support their betrayed partner's grieving process — and for betrayed partners who need language for what they've been carrying alone. 💛 In This Episode You'll Learn: • What disenfranchised grief is and why it applies to betrayal • Why the betrayed grieves multiple losses at once • How grief shows up in waves, loops, and survival behaviors • Seven ways unfaithful partners unintentionally worsen the grief • The exact actions that help the betrayed feel seen, safe, and supported • Why witnessing grief is one of the deepest forms of relational repair • How trust begins to rebuild through presence, patience, and accountability 🌿 Key Takeaways • The betrayed isn't \"dwelling\" — they're grieving. • Their grief is real, valid, and often invisible to others. • The unfaithful's presence in the grief is essential for healing. • Progress is measured not by fewer tears, but by greater safety in bringing pain to the relationship. • There is a way through this… 📬 Connect With Us: Have a questio…","meta_description":"In this dynamic episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Sam and James unpack disenfranchised grief—the deep, invisible grief the betrayed partner experiences after…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1913,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episodes/episode-59-7-ways-the-unfaithful-mishandle-the-betrayed-s-disenfranchised-grief/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-59-7-ways-the-unfaithful-mishandle-the-betrayed-s-disenfranchised-grief.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}