{"podcast":{"title":"Ask the Unfaithful","slug":"ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","podcast_index_feed_id":7030282,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/548157/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/548157","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/b/7/b/a/b7ba3da7b2c2506527a2322813b393ee/AskTheUnfaithful2.jpg","author":"James & Sam","episode_count":73,"summary":"The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners. Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam: Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade. Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 54: What Are The Consequences of People Pleasing For the Unfaithful?","slug":"episode-54-what-are-the-consequences-of-people-pleasing-for-the-unfaithful","published_at":"2025-10-09T10:21:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-54-what-are-the-consequences-of-people-pleasing-for-the-unfaithful","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","url":"https://8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f.libsyn.com/episode-54-what-are-the-consequences-of-people-pleasing-for-the-unfaithful","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f/atu54.mp3?dest-id=4728192","summary":"\"Healing begins when we choose authenticity over approval and prioritize the love that truly matters.\" In this episode of Ask the Unfaithful, James and Sam reveal how people pleasing critically affects the Unfaithful and the steps to stopping it and living a new life where energy is focused on relationship repair and growth. 👉 If you're an unfaithful partner, this conversation will help you see how people pleasing isn't harmless. It drains your energy, blurs your identity, disrupts recovery and arrests trust rebuilding by de-prioritizing your betrayed partner. You'll discover: ✅ Why people pleasing is a survival tactic rooted in the need for validation stemming from shame and fear of rejection. ✅ How it leads to loss of identity, burnout, anxiety, and disconnection. ✅ How it disrupts your own recovery by not only deprioritizing your partner but yourself. ✅ The hidden ways it blocks rebuilding trust and relational safety. ✅ Practical steps to set boundaries, rebuild authenticity, and stop the cycle. ✅ How to shift from seeking external validation to practicing self-validation. 💡 Key takeaway: When you choose to stop people-pleasing, you are actively choosing authenticity, humility, and accountability over approval. 👉 If this episode resonates with you, please like, share, and subscribe for more conversations on betrayal trauma, affair recovery, and building trust again. 📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Betrayed (@AskTheBetrayed on YouTube) 🔔 Please hit the bell to be alerted about new videos! ⚠️ Note: This episode is educational, not therapy. Please reach out for professional guidance at AskTheUnfaithful@gmail.com to learn more about coaching or intensive options. ------ Our Website: www.AskTheUnfaithful.com Contact us: As…","meta_description":"\"Healing begins when we choose authenticity over approval and prioritize the love that truly matters.\" In this episode of Ask the Unfaithful, James and Sa…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2087,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episodes/episode-54-what-are-the-consequences-of-people-pleasing-for-the-unfaithful/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-54-what-are-the-consequences-of-people-pleasing-for-the-unfaithful.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}