{"podcast":{"title":"Ask the Unfaithful","slug":"ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","podcast_index_feed_id":7030282,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/548157/rss","website_url":"https://sites.libsyn.com/548157","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/b/7/b/a/b7ba3da7b2c2506527a2322813b393ee/AskTheUnfaithful2.jpg","author":"James & Sam","episode_count":73,"summary":"The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners. Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam: Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade. Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 53: 10 Ways the Unfaithful's Distorted Thinking Destroys Hope","slug":"episode-53-10-ways-the-unfaithful-s-distorted-thinking-destroys-hope","published_at":"2025-09-11T14:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-53-10-ways-the-unfaithful-s-distorted-thinking-destroys-hope","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282","url":"https://8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f.libsyn.com/episode-53-10-ways-the-unfaithfuls-distorted-thinking-destroys-hope","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/8e1106a8-3530-4552-a732-0917d7a3602f/ATU1.mp3?dest-id=4728192","summary":"Stinking Thinking is more than just negative self-talk—it's the distorted, automatic thought patterns that block empathy, sabotage trust, and keep both the unfaithful and the betrayed partner stuck in cycles of pain. In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, we unpack how \"stinking thinking\" shows up after infidelity: • The 5 categories of distorted thoughts • How these toxic beliefs re-traumatize the betrayed partner • The devastating psychological effects on the unfaithful • Why distorted thinking erodes the relationship and prevents repair • Practical tools to challenge, reality-check, and rewire stinking thinking for true relational healing 💡 Understanding and addressing stinking thinking is critical to emotional sobriety and lasting relational recovery. 👉 If this episode resonates with you, please like, share, and subscribe for more conversations on betrayal trauma, affair recovery, and building trust again. 📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Betrayed (@AskTheBetrayed on YouTube) 🔔 Please hit the bell to be alerted about new videos! ⚠️ Note: This episode is educational, not therapy. Please reach out for professional guidance at AskTheUnfaithful@gmail.com to learn more about coaching or intensive options. 📧 Contact us: AskTheUnfaithful@gmail.com 🔗 Need help healing? Visit HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or email Sam at SamsHealingPodcast@gmail.com\\ 📬 Reach out: asktheunfaithful@gmail.com 🎧 Find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. ------ Our Website: www.AskTheUnfaithful.com Contact us: AskTheUnfaithful@gmail.com Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com Find more from Sam at Sam's Healing Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@samshealingpodcast Sam is also…","meta_description":"Stinking Thinking is more than just negative self-talk—it's the distorted, automatic thought patterns that block empathy, sabotage trust, and keep both th…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2403,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episodes/episode-53-10-ways-the-unfaithful-s-distorted-thinking-destroys-hope/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-the-unfaithful-7030282/episode-53-10-ways-the-unfaithful-s-distorted-thinking-destroys-hope.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}