{"podcast":{"title":"Anger Secrets: Anger Management for Healthier Relationships","slug":"anger-secrets-5809386","podcast_index_feed_id":5809386,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/angersecrets/","website_url":"https://angersecrets.captivate.fm","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/d1249324-2922-4a6d-8daa-211abc55b7ed/Anger-Secrets-Podcast-Cover-copy.jpg","author":"Alastair Duhs | Anger Management Expert","episode_count":204,"summary":"Most people don't look for anger management until anger starts damaging the people they love. They try to stay calm. They promise themselves they'll do better next time. They work harder to control their reactions. But the outbursts keep happening. The arguments keep escalating. The tension keeps building at home. The problem isn't simply learning to suppress anger. Lasting anger management comes from understanding anger triggers, improving emotional regulation, addressing the root causes of anger and developing healthier ways to communicate during conflict. That's what Anger Secrets is here to help you do. Hosted by anger expert Alastair Duhs, Anger Secrets is an anger management podcast that helps you understand why anger keeps coming back, how to control anger before it controls you, and how to repair the damage anger can cause in relationships and family life. Each episode explores practical strategies for anger control, emotional regulation, communication and conflict resolution, anger triggers, relationship conflict, parenting challenges and rebuilding trust after anger has damaged important relationships. You'll learn how to stop losing your temper, stay calm under pressure…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-20T02:17:32.529951+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386"},"episode":{"title":"195 - Why Couples Keep Having the Same Fight","slug":"195-why-couples-keep-having-the-same-fight","published_at":"2026-07-26T00:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386/195-why-couples-keep-having-the-same-fight","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386","url":"https://angersecrets.com/podcast/195-is-your-anger-ruining-your-marriage-the-hidden-pattern-that-keeps-you-both-stuck","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/00c9dca4-17cd-4d91-8ca8-3471baf9dc56.mp3","summary":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Most couples think they're arguing about the dishes, the forgotten phone call or something that happened last weekend. They're not. Beneath almost every recurring conflict is a hidden pattern that keeps both people stuck, and until you see that pattern, the same arguments tend to repeat themselves again and again. In this episode, Alastair introduces one of the most powerful relationship tools for understanding anger and conflict: the Drama Triangle. You'll learn why people unconsciously slip into three familiar roles during arguments and how those roles create frustration, defensiveness, blame and emotional distance in a marriage. You'll discover the characteristics of the Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer roles, why none of them actually solve the problem, and how couples can switch between them multiple times during a single disagreement without even realising it. Through practical examples, Alastair explains how these patterns show up in everyday conversations and why they leave both partners feeling misunderstood, unheard, and stuck. Most importantly, you'll learn the first step toward breaking the cycle: recognising the role you're playing before anger takes over the conversation. Because lasting relationship change doesn't start by changing your partner. It starts by seeing your own patterns clearly enough to choose a different response. If you've ever wondered why the same arguments keep happening in your marriage despite your best intentions, this episode will help you understand the hidden dynamic underneath the conflict and why awareness is the key to creating healthier communication. Anger Secrets is the podcast for men and women who want lasting anger management solutions and stronger…","meta_description":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Most couples think they're arguing about the dishes, the forgotten phone call…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":678,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/anger-secrets-5809386/episodes/195-why-couples-keep-having-the-same-fight/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386/195-why-couples-keep-having-the-same-fight.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}