{"podcast":{"title":"Anger Secrets: Anger Management for Healthier Relationships","slug":"anger-secrets-5809386","podcast_index_feed_id":5809386,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/angersecrets/","website_url":"https://angersecrets.captivate.fm","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/d1249324-2922-4a6d-8daa-211abc55b7ed/Anger-Secrets-Podcast-Cover-copy.jpg","author":"Alastair Duhs | Anger Management Expert","episode_count":204,"summary":"Most people don't look for anger management until anger starts damaging the people they love. They try to stay calm. They promise themselves they'll do better next time. They work harder to control their reactions. But the outbursts keep happening. The arguments keep escalating. The tension keeps building at home. The problem isn't simply learning to suppress anger. Lasting anger management comes from understanding anger triggers, improving emotional regulation, addressing the root causes of anger and developing healthier ways to communicate during conflict. That's what Anger Secrets is here to help you do. Hosted by anger expert Alastair Duhs, Anger Secrets is an anger management podcast that helps you understand why anger keeps coming back, how to control anger before it controls you, and how to repair the damage anger can cause in relationships and family life. Each episode explores practical strategies for anger control, emotional regulation, communication and conflict resolution, anger triggers, relationship conflict, parenting challenges and rebuilding trust after anger has damaged important relationships. You'll learn how to stop losing your temper, stay calm under pressure…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-20T02:17:32.529951+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386"},"episode":{"title":"184 - Why Do I Always Say The Wrong Thing When My Partner Is Upset?","slug":"184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset","published_at":"2026-05-10T00:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386/184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386","url":"https://angersecrets.com/podcast/184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/8a176a26-ae8d-4978-9077-14e297261014.mp3","summary":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through four simple but powerful steps to help you say the right thing when your partner is upset - whether you tend to jump straight to fixing, go quiet or say something that somehow makes things worse. These are practical, learnable skills that work even when emotions are running high. Rather than offering generic advice, Alastair gets to the heart of why these moments go wrong so often: not because you don't care, but because your partner doesn't yet feel understood . And until they do, almost nothing you say will land well. And the good news is, that's entirely within your power to change. Key Takeaways: The problem usually isn't what you're saying. Until your partner feels understood, even the kindest or most logical words won't land. Feeling heard has to come before anything else. Minimal encouragers, a nod, a quiet \"I see,\" steady eye contact, are small signals with a big impact. They tell your partner it's safe to keep going, and their absence is one of the most common reasons partners feel unheard. There's a real difference between questions that open a conversation up and questions that close it down. Open-ended questions and questions about feelings take the conversation somewhere real; beyond facts and logistics, into what your partner actually experienced. Reflecting back what your partner has said in your own words does two things: it lets them know they've genuinely been heard, and it gives them the chance to correct you if you've misunderstood. Both of those matter more than most people realise. Giving positive feedback doesn't mean piling on compliments. A simple \"thank you for telling me that\" signals that bringing things to yo…","meta_description":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . 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