{"podcast":{"title":"Anger Secrets","slug":"anger-secrets-5809386","podcast_index_feed_id":5809386,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/angersecrets/","website_url":"https://angersecrets.captivate.fm","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/d1249324-2922-4a6d-8daa-211abc55b7ed/Anger-Secrets-Podcast-Cover-copy.jpg","author":"Alastair Duhs","episode_count":188,"summary":"The Anger Secrets podcast is a weekly show that covers everything you need to know about anger management. Hosted by Anger Expert Alastair Duhs, this podcast offers valuable tips, techniques and strategies for controlling your anger, mastering your emotions and creating calmer, happier and more loving relationships. The Anger Secrets podcast is perfect for anyone who is looking for proven tools and techniques to control their anger and create calmer, happier and more respectful relationships with those they love. If you're ready to learn how to control your anger and live the calmer, happy and more respectful life you want, this podcast is for you. Join us on the journey to anger management mastery today! For more information on how to control your anger, visit AngerSecrets.com.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386"},"episode":{"title":"184 - Why Do I Always Say The Wrong Thing When My Partner Is Upset?","slug":"184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset","published_at":"2026-05-10T00:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386/184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386","url":"https://angersecrets.com/podcast/184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/8a176a26-ae8d-4978-9077-14e297261014.mp3","summary":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through four simple but powerful steps to help you say the right thing when your partner is upset - whether you tend to jump straight to fixing, go quiet or say something that somehow makes things worse. These are practical, learnable skills that work even when emotions are running high. Rather than offering generic advice, Alastair gets to the heart of why these moments go wrong so often: not because you don't care, but because your partner doesn't yet feel understood . And until they do, almost nothing you say will land well. And the good news is, that's entirely within your power to change. Key Takeaways: The problem usually isn't what you're saying. Until your partner feels understood, even the kindest or most logical words won't land. Feeling heard has to come before anything else. Minimal encouragers, a nod, a quiet \"I see,\" steady eye contact, are small signals with a big impact. They tell your partner it's safe to keep going, and their absence is one of the most common reasons partners feel unheard. There's a real difference between questions that open a conversation up and questions that close it down. Open-ended questions and questions about feelings take the conversation somewhere real; beyond facts and logistics, into what your partner actually experienced. Reflecting back what your partner has said in your own words does two things: it lets them know they've genuinely been heard, and it gives them the chance to correct you if you've misunderstood. Both of those matter more than most people realise. Giving positive feedback doesn't mean piling on compliments. A simple \"thank you for telling me that\" signals that bringing things to yo…","meta_description":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through four simple but powe…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":737,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/anger-secrets-5809386/episodes/184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386/184-why-do-i-always-say-the-wrong-thing-when-my-partner-is-upset.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}