{"podcast":{"title":"Anger Management","slug":"anger-management-7096541","podcast_index_feed_id":7096541,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/anger-management/","website_url":"https://anger-management.captivate.fm","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/4fd4f42c-11ed-4f7f-a480-3d46eb921b3f/F_yg8y5GKmpEmD4FFYxvchuZ.jpg","author":"Alastair Duhs","episode_count":82,"summary":"The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted. Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect. This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery. Want to learn more? Visit AngerSecrets.com.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541"},"episode":{"title":"81 - He Thought He Didn't Have an Anger Problem. His Marriage Told a Different Story.","slug":"81-he-thought-he-didn-t-have-an-anger-problem-his-marriage-told-a-different-story","published_at":"2026-05-17T18:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541/81-he-thought-he-didn-t-have-an-anger-problem-his-marriage-told-a-different-story","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541","url":"https://angersecrets.com/81-he-thought-he-didnt-have-an-anger-problem-his-marriage-told-a-different-story","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/bc72e8f4-8428-4cfe-baf2-c2726b183c16.mp3","summary":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Matthew, a 32-year-old husband, stepfather and small business owner who came to the program eight weeks ago stuck in a cycle of explosive arguments with his wife. Whether you bring frustration home from a long day and take it out on the people closest to you, or you know your anger needs to change but have not quite found the words for it yet, this conversation will feel familiar. Rather than talking about anger in abstract terms, Matthew shares what actually shifted for him, from recognising where he sits on the tension scale before things escalate, to seeing his wife as a teammate rather than an opponent. And the good news is, eight weeks was enough to start rebuilding the trust that anger had been quietly eroding. Key Takeaways: Anger does not always look the way people expect. Matthew saw himself as a good husband and father. But frustration was building beneath the surface, and the people closest to him were bearing the brunt of it. When everything else is getting to you, it is easy to make your partner the enemy. Matthew's shift came when he stopped seeing his wife as the opponent and started seeing them as a team facing a common challenge together. Your thoughts do not have to become your actions. Matthew learned that having a difficult thought is not the problem. What matters is whether you act on it. Slowing down between the thought and the response is where real change begins. The Tension Scale is a practical tool, not a theory. Asking yourself where you are on the scale in the moment gives you a window to make a different choice before things escalate. Matthew uses it daily, including in Auckland traffic. Writing things down…","meta_description":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Matthew, a 32-year-…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1055,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/anger-management-7096541/episodes/81-he-thought-he-didn-t-have-an-anger-problem-his-marriage-told-a-different-story/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541/81-he-thought-he-didn-t-have-an-anger-problem-his-marriage-told-a-different-story.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}