{"podcast":{"title":"Anger Management","slug":"anger-management-7096541","podcast_index_feed_id":7096541,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/anger-management/","website_url":"https://anger-management.captivate.fm","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/4fd4f42c-11ed-4f7f-a480-3d46eb921b3f/F_yg8y5GKmpEmD4FFYxvchuZ.jpg","author":"Alastair Duhs","episode_count":82,"summary":"The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted. Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect. This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery. Want to learn more? Visit AngerSecrets.com.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541"},"episode":{"title":"70 - The Listening Skill That Prevents 90% of Arguments","slug":"70-the-listening-skill-that-prevents-90-of-arguments","published_at":"2026-03-01T18:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541/70-the-listening-skill-that-prevents-90-of-arguments","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541","url":"https://angersecrets.com/70-the-listening-skill-that-prevents-90-of-arguments","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/0abcd9db-9848-40e3-9629-7c26e094ddcc.mp3","summary":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Think about the last argument you had with your partner. It probably started innocently enough—just a conversation about their day, a decision you needed to make, something simple. But somewhere along the way, things went sideways. You got defensive, they got frustrated and suddenly you were fighting. In this practical episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the real problem: you probably weren't listening. After 30 years of observing couples communicate, Alastair has identified the exact pattern that turns ordinary conversations into arguments. More importantly, he shares the four active listening skills that will simply stop 90% of your conflicts before they even start. This isn't about being polite or nodding along—it's about preventing conflict at its source. Key Takeaways: Most arguments don't happen because of the topic being discussed—they happen because of how you're listening (or not listening). Active listening is focused, attentive, and non-judgmental—you're fully present, making eye contact, and keeping the focus on your partner no matter what they say. The fatal pattern: most people don't actually listen, they're just preparing their rebuttal, thinking about their own point, turning conversation into competition. Minimal encouragers (simple sounds like \"yes,\" \"I see,\" \"go on,\" or nodding) show your partner you're engaged and help them relax and open up. Ask open-ended questions about feelings, not just facts—shift from \"Did you have a good day?\" to \"How was your day?\" and \"How did that make you feel?\" Summarize or reframe what your partner said in your own words to validate their experience and build trust while avoiding defensiveness. Give posit…","meta_description":"For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Think about the last argument you had with your partner. It probably started i…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":680,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/anger-management-7096541/episodes/70-the-listening-skill-that-prevents-90-of-arguments/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541/70-the-listening-skill-that-prevents-90-of-arguments.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}